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Date Posted: 11:14:24 11/15/04 Mon
Author: Gadfly
Subject: Re: My son is a UBFr
In reply to: Priscilla 's message, "My son is a UBFr" on 18:16:54 11/13/04 Sat

Just a guess, but your son may be in UBF as a reaction to being raised in the Catholic Church. I am not trying to insult the Catholic Church here, but simply point out that some people react negatively to the order and structure of the church. I don't think that anyone can deny that many Catholics go to church out of a sense of duty or habit, and do not present much effort to be the body of Christ, or to be spiritually oriented during the work week etc.

But in any case, I would say as a former UBFer from the time I was 18 to 21, that your best effort would be to love and support your son. Just keep your relationship with him, and strengthen your relationship with him. Your love and support, if unconditional, will outlast UBF's love which is not.

Also, it is very important to understand that UBF can be a positive experience for some, and a truly horrific experience for others. The people who have the worst experiences from what I have seen are those that are cut off from their families, and thus are more ready to be manipulated and used by UBF.

Do you see my point? Is your son emotionally vulnerable and looking for someone to run his life? If so UBF will seize on that weakness and use it to their advantage. If on the other hand your son has a strong sense of self, and is merely enjoying his time there, it may all turn out to b just fine.

But I will say again, keep your relationship with your son based on love, and pray for him and God will work things out.

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Re: My son is a UBFr -- Pius IX, 13:26:48 11/15/04 Mon
- More similarities -- Mike K., 01:35:03 11/16/04 Tue
  - Pray for your Son -- nv, 03:11:03 11/27/04 Sat