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Obligations

Author:
Naeemah

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Date Posted: 19:59:26 11/15/02 Fri
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As salaamu alaykum,
My husband had a child before he became muslim, outside of marriage. He is currently incarcerated. He and his sons mother do not have a good relationship. He wants me to find a way to bring his son to visit, and says if i do not he will have someone else, maybe another female bring his son to him. I have never met his sons mother, nor the rest of his family, and cannot find a way to do bring his son to him. Is it my responsibility as his wife to do this? Is he wrong to ask, since this child was created in zina? Will my husband be commiting a sin if his sons mother brings his son and they have a visit, or if he has another women (not family) bring his son to see him? I want to do right by Allah, but am very uncomfertable in this situation.

As salaamu alaykum,
Naeemah

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[> Subject: Re: Obligations

Author:
Laila Nasheeba
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Date Posted: 05:12:56 11/16/02 Sat
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As salaamu Alaikoum,

Praise be to Allah.

You are not responsible for another womans child and no man can force you to deal with his children from another woman.

Seeing his child is not your problem, concern nor responsibility. That is for him to figure out how to do on his own and he should not involve you in that..

AND ALLAH KNOWS BEST

Laila Nasheeba