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Subject: Advice plss

Author:
Sister

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Date Posted: 12:00:14 08/09/02 Fri
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Salam aleikum

I am a muslim mother with kids . I have a huge problem. My husband does not pray and fullfill his islamic duty. I asked him to make hijrah with me and the kids and he refused.
I thought if i make hijrah to a muslim country i would depend on him for financial support. After a lot of thinking i decided to apply at the islamia school in London for my children and as i am a medical secretary it would be easy for me to find a job and not depend and anyone except on Allah.

I am afraid he would not allow me to take the boys .I am willing to take the girls even if it hurts me to leave my kids behind with a father who is lost. I have been in this situation for almost several years now and i can not wait anymore and i am afraid that it would be too late because the kids are growing up.

Pls do you think i made the right decision?help me with more advice.

Sister in Islam

Jazukum Allahu kheiran

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Laila Nasheeba
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Date Posted: 16:41:19 08/09/02 Fri
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As Salaamu Alaikoum,

Praise be to Allah.

First of all, if you husband does not pray he is considered kaafir and your marriage to him is annulled. Also, since he does not pray he can not tell you what to do. You are not supposed to be with him and here is the Islamic ruling on this:

It is not permissible to stay with a husband who is like this, because by neglecting the salaah (prayer) he is a kaafir, and it is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a kaafir or stay with him. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

�� if you ascertain that they [women] are true believers, send them not back to the disbelievers, they are not lawful (wives) for the disbelievers nor are the disbelievers lawful (husbands) for them�� [al-Mumtahinah 60:10]

The marriage between you and him is null and void, and there can be no nikaah (marriage) between you unless Allaah guides him and he repents to Allaah and comes back to Islam. In that case the marriage will remain valid.

--Shaykh Uthaymeen

If this man refuses to pray then you should leave him immediately for staying with him puts you in Zinna. We suggest you contact your local Imam.

AND ALLAH KNOWS BEST

Laila Nasheeba