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Subject: Re: First pregnancy

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Rachel

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Date Posted: 07/20/06 11:44am
In reply to: Jacqueline 's message, "Re: First pregnancy" on 07/19/06 5:21pm

I think you need to ask yourself (and Dom)- why doesn't Dom want this child? The answer may be because he doesn't feel he cares enough about you to be in that committed of a relationship. if so, then you need to look again at your decision if you are basing it on saving your relationship with a man who doesn't want a future with you anyhow. does this make sense? i am saying this because if you have the abortion and also later lose the relationship, i'd hate to see you regretting making the choice for the guy's sake.

now, if he doesn't want the child because of other reasons, but wants to later have children with you - you both may want to do some preliminary figuring on paper - pros and cons - rather than just making a knee-jerk decision because of the fears you have. my son was an unplanned pregnancy and believe you me i had a laundry list of fears, but they all worked themselves out somehow. I even went to a clinic to have the procedure done but walked out because in the waiting room i read an article by a woman who had two troubled parents who didn't have alot of money but in the end she was thankful her life turned out just the way it did. I walked outside and imediately a reassuring voice came into my head and said "God blesses mothers and children. don't give up on God."
That is something I will alwasy remember and do firmly believe is true.

good luck to you whatever you decide.

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Luka
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Date Posted: 07/20/06 4:54pm

Can i ask what how the people at the 'clinic' reacted when you turned around and changed your mind? The last time i booked myself in for a termination i never made it to the clinic i just called to cancel at the last minnute. The woman on the other end of the phone was really annoyed with me. She gave me a mouthful for cancelling late talking about if i had called sooner she could have fit another woman in that day because it was a weekend apparently they got alot of bookings from women who worked during the week and could only do it on a saturday. I couldn't beleive how insensitive she was, it's not like i was getting my hair cut for gods sake. But i guess to that woman it's only business and time is money :(

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Author: Rachel [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 07/21/06 5:29am Luka, I didn't tell anyone I was leaving! I am sure they were mad. With this latest pregnancy (my daughter) I made the appt. again, and didn't even call to cancel. Maybe we could be an army against abortion by all of us calling in and making appts we don't keep! lol.