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Subject: Re: repost

Author:
Heather

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Date Posted: 08/ 8/06 6:20pm
In reply to: shelby 's message, "repost" on 08/ 8/06 9:47am

Hi Shelby,

I don't know if I'm sorry for the fact that the one who raped you is your dad, or if you don't feel you can go to your mom.
Big hugs for you, dear.

The third option I see is for you to call your Crisis Pregnancy Center. If you tell them that you are a minor, a victim of incest, and can't talk to your parents THEY WILL FIND A WAY TO HELP you. There are representatives who can take over your case and shield you at the same time. There's no reason why you should be left to deal with this alone - you've been through enough.

Another option would be to confide in a trusted friend or relative that can help you. Please don't delay - you should have the support you need ASAP.

Regarding your baby, you do have choices. None are easy, but you aren't alone, or trapped into any one choice. You can decide. If you decide to keep your baby, it's not destined for failure by any means. You can utilize a lot of help out there and make it if you're willing to seek out the help.

Otherwise, you can consider the joy you would bring a couple that isn't able to have children by placing your baby with them. This is not anyone taking your baby, by any means. It's a beautiful, responsible choice on your end that will result in a win/win situation for your baby and the parents who adopt him/her. Something encouraging to look at is the statistics of how much less child abuse there is in families where a child is adopted - due in part I'm sure to them realizing in a special way what a treasure their child is as a gift to them.

At any rate, we are behind you 100%. Please let us know in any way that we can help you.

Love,

Heather

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Pat
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Date Posted: 08/ 8/06 9:58pm

Shelby,

I am so sorry your dad has done this to you!

I urge you, along with Heather, to go to a crisis pregnancy agency. Like I said, you can get online counseling. Probably the best thing is for you to stay temporarily someplace else and have your baby, and then you can decide what to do at that point. I suspect a crisis pregnancy agency can arrange for someone to care for your horses, though it would be a highly unusual request. I personally know a woman who would probably help out, but she lives in Arizona, not Colorado, and she has empty horse stalls. So I am sure there are people out there.

I wouldn't be surprised if your parents gang up on you and try to force you to have an abortion. That's why it is SO IMPORTANT for you to get support now before you talk to them.

As for not having a future, of course you have one. As soon as your baby is born, you can go back to caring for your horses, and I know your baby will love them. Go ahead and plan for your future; do not be afraid. You can do it. There are people who will help you. Just set your mind to it. It will be a challenge, but you will be the stronger for it. I don't know why God gave you a child. We often don't know that sort of thing for a very long time. As for your friends, they're not really friends, if they would abandon you at a time like this. It is one way to find out who your true friends are. There are people who will stick by you. They are your true friends. And we will also be your friends. I wish I could come give you a hug, but a cyber hug will have to do. Maybe sometime we can meet each other. But for now, we will just have to be friends here.

Please continue to come here and talk to us. We care about you both.

Hugs,
Pat