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Subject: Re: i've decided

Author:
Heather

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Date Posted: 08/18/06 10:38am
In reply to: shelby 's message, "i've decided" on 08/18/06 9:25am

Hi Shelby,

I'm glad you've been able to make a choice you're comfortable with. Congratulations!

I sure do wish you had another adult you could bring along side you in this. If not your mom then ??

If you do decide to tell your mom and you think it would be helpful to you, you can have her come with you to a free counseling session at your local Pregnancy Resource Center. They do that all the time - have either parent, boyrfriend, spouse or whoever is a significant other to the woman in an unplanned pregnancy and allow for both to adjust to the news in a safe and sheltered setting of an understanding counselor.

Let me know if you'd like more information.

What a blessing that the baby appears to be healthy and happy. I hope you'll take good care of yourself, too, and get lots of extra rest and good food. Right now, in the first trimester, you need it the most.

Regarding morning sickness, boy I empathize. I had that with my first to babies and it's NO FUN! But the good news is it usually goes away for most women after the end of the first trimester, so you're not too far away from that horizon.

Determining the gender of the baby is usually possible around 13 weeks or so, but much more definite by 17-18 weeks. This is a really ideal time to get another ultrasound.

As far as other misc. pregnancy things to know - by all means come on here and ask whatever specific questions you have! Also, I can't recommend highly enough a book called 'What to Expect When You're Expecting.' It's designed for first time moms and answers every conceivable question a woman could have. It's very common and would be available at any bookstore.

Well dear one, this is not as it should be, you have suffered an injustice that ought not to have happened and I do so hope you'll seek responsible legal protection and get the safety you need and deserve at this point, but I am very thankful for the kind and thoughtful person that comes out in your posts and I will praying that God will carry you through this time in grace and peace. If you seek out the help that is available to you, you can do this. Don't be shy about getting that support, though! You weren't created to be abused and mistreated, nor was your baby.

Many hugs for you,

Heather

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[> Subject: Re: i've decided

Author:
Melanie
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Date Posted: 08/18/06 12:51pm

Hi Shelby,

IT must be a relief to finally have made a decision. I am very glad to hear that you did seek medical care. You do still need to tell someone. It won't be easy, but it has to happen. It won't just "go away".

I would recommend that you consider following Heather's advice for telling your mom. Under the circumstances you might not want to do that alone.

As for the sickness, most of the time it starts to wane by about 14 weeks, not always, but usually. There are things you can do to help reduce it. First of all, do not let yourself get hungry. Eat small frequent meals rather than larger meals less often. If you experience sickness in the morning, you should keep something by your bedside and nibble a little before you even get up. Once you get hungry it's too late, so don't wait too long to eat. Sometimes ginger can help. If you are experiencing a lot of nausea, you can ask the doctor about a doxylamine succinate and vitamin B6 combo. Hopefully you will be through with that part of the pregnancy within a week or two.

From what I recall, the gender can be determined by about the 16th week or so if the baby is co-operative and in the right position to "be seen" so to speak. :)

--Melanie