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Subject: sleeping with ghosts Author: Nikki [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 08/ 4/06 7:44pm i dont know if this is where i should be... but i need to let some things out... and i don't really know where else to go.... ive been crying for hours now and i don't know what to do. im scared.. im hopeless.. i want out.. is it just the baby doing this to my emotions? or is this really me? i screwed up. i can't do this anymore. i love him. i know he loves me. i know he loves our baby. and we both need him. but i'm a horrible person. why is he still with me? im holeding him back from everyting. i'm sucking the life outta him. i don't want to leave him. i need him. but he can't be happy with me. i dont want to hurt him anymore. i dont want to see it in his eyes everytimg he looks at me. i just want things to be okay again. i want to be able to hold onto him like i used to. but all ican do is p8ush him away. and try to convince mysel fi'm saving us both from being hurt. i dont know waht ot do...... [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: sleeping with ghosts Author: Lori [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08/ 5/06 10:10pm Hi Nikki, It definitely sounds like your emotions are getting the best of you right now. I think a lot of the emotions that your feeling right now are due to being pregnant. I can remember crying for no reason at all while I was pregnant. You have so many different emotions, you feel the responsibility of this little one and it can feel overwhelming at times but know that everything will be okay. Were here to support you any time you need it that is what were here for. I look forward to hearing from you soon. God Bless, Lori ((HUGS))

[> Subject: Re: sleeping with ghosts Author: Pat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08/ 5/06 10:49pm Nikki, Bless your heart! I am very concerned you think you are a horrible person. Pushing your baby's father away won't help. That will hurt him more. He has accepted the situation, and yes, he can be happy with you. He can choose to be happy. You may be suffering from some kind of clinical depression. If so, please get help! You should check your diet. If you are eating either monosodium glutimate or hydrolized vegetable protein, stop eating them (the name of a vegetable may be substituted for the word "vegetable"). These things are very dangerous for your baby. And they can do horrible things to your own mind. Make sure you are taking your vitamins. Remember, you are made in the image of God, and He paid an infinite price for you because He loves you so much. If He thinks you are worth salvaging, then take His word for it. Remember one other thing: You are a good mother, so you can't possibly be as horrible as you are thinking you are. You are protecting your baby. Your boyfriend is still with you because he loves you and wants to be with you. Here's another person who thinks the world of you, or he wouldn't be there for you. Let him nurture you. We love you and care about you. I am glad you trust us enough to tell us when you are feeling this way. We will be praying for you. Hugs, Pat

[> Subject: Re: sleeping with ghosts Author: Pat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08/ 5/06 10:53pm Oh, one other thing. Stay away from Aspartame (NutraSweet). In fact, diet products in general are bad news. You need a certain amount of fat to make the hormones necessary for your body to function properly. Hugs again, Pat

[> Subject: Re: sleeping with ghosts Author: Nikki [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08/11/06 10:55pm thanks you guys... i'm doing okay now. i just get that way sometimes... ya, i do have depression. had it forever. i thought it was under control before the baby, but now i see that it's not. i know i should get back into therapy, but i'm scared. and it's hard to find someone around here i can afford.... i can't afford anything right now except for this baby. anyway... just wanted to say thanks. glad you guys are listening to my mindless ramblings. and i'm glad i have somewhere to turn to when i need.

[> Subject: Re: sleeping with ghosts Author: Melanie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08/16/06 5:35pm Glad to hear you are feeling better. I really thought I responded. I think sometimes I forget the "approve" button. LOL I sometimes go through hormonal depressions. They are usually triggered by some event, but the "depressed" feeling lasts beyond the actual trigger. It's usually o.k. once I recognize it for what it is. It's when it blindsides you that it seems to hit me hardest. Not sure if that is how it is with you. Once you realize what it is, then it just helps me to know it won't last forever.... and the best thing for it is often just a good cry. Hope things settle out for you.