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Subject: Re: 7 days late Author: Heather [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 12/30/09 11:44am In reply to: Amber 's message, "7 days late" on 12/29/09 10:28pm Hi Amber, Welcome to the forum; glad you found it. After reading in the second half of your post about your twins, and also the trauma you experienced with an abortion, I can easily understand why you are nervous about potentially being pregnant. I would try a second home pregnancy test. They are usually extremely accurate, and if you are pregnant, and 7 days past your expected period it would show up. I would highly recommend going to your city's local Pregnancy Resource Center (sometimes called 'Crisis Pregnancy Center,' too.) They can administer a free pregnancy test, and help you out with anything else under the sun pregnancy related you might want help with. All their services are free, including ultrasounds, understanding counseling, supplies, financial aid assistance, etc. I used to volunteer for our city's PRC and it was such a huge blessing to so many people. It's totally normal to be stressed out and overwhelmed with the idea of an unplanned pregnancy. Hang in there; there's hope! I'd say step one is finding out if you are even pregnant. If you are, know that there is a ton of support out there for you, even if you boyfriend is not supportive, and if you don't want to have an abortion, you don't have to have one. I hope you'll post the results of a pregnancy test here. We'll be praying for you. Hang in there. With Kindness, Heather [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: 7 days late Author: Pat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12/30/09 12:17pm Hello, Amber, To begin with, pulling out doesn't work. A woman can get pregnant from what they call pre-cum. So there is a very real possibility you are pregnant. You don't have to say anything to your boyfriend if you don't want to. That's up to you. If you are pregnant and you feel it would not be a good idea for him to be in your baby's life, you can break off with him. He's been taking advantage of you anyway. Obviously, you have allowed this, but you should think about this carefully. Think about whether or not he has been manipulating you in any way, to get sex from you. Above all, if he does find out or you tell him, don't let him influence you toward abortion in any way. If he pulls away emotionally, let him go. If he tries to manipulate you, break off rather than yield. You can protect your baby, and we are here to support you. As for the symptoms, these could be due to stress. You should see what a doctor has to say about migraines, and you can also do research online. Here are three good links on migraines: Why Migraines Strike. Can Cayenne Peppers Really Cure a Headache? Oxygen Therapy for Migraine Headaches. You will probably have to join the site to read the articles. If you are unable to handle the heat of cayenne in water, you can take capsules. I don't recommend the EFT method, because there may be some serious spiritual implications, but there are plenty of other good suggestions. At this point, you can test for pregnancy again, and if you are pregnant, you may get a positive result. If not, try again in a week. It sounds like you really don't want an abortion. You know what you would be getting into, and it's not worth it. So I urge you not to consider it. It will also help your state of mind, which may help your symptoms. Since stress can bring on migraines, even considering an abortion may be contributing to your problem. If you can't raise another child, you can choose adoption. But you shouldn't make that decision until much later in pregnancy. By that time, you may feel very differently about having another child. Since hormones interfere with acceptance of pregnancy in the first trimester, it is highly likely you will feel differently. You may also have some unresolved issues about losing your twins. From your explanation, it wasn't clear why your husband put you in intensive care, or even that he had the authority to do so, without the cooperation of a doctor. For all of the problems you may face as a result of pregnancy, you could probably benefit from counseling. You can find an organization near you that offers counseling by going here: heartbeatinternational.org Choose your country from the country list. There may be multiple pages. Click on "details" for contact information. Please keep in touch. We are here for you. Take care.