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Subject: Re: a story like another? Author: Pat [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 06/17/09 12:07am In reply to: stefano 's message, "a story like another?" on 06/11/09 2:09pm Hi, Stefano, Your story touched my heart and made me cry. Thank you so much for telling it! More and more, fathers are speaking out. And you and your lady both need healing. Please know that healing is possible. There are agencies and organizations that can help with your emotional and spiritual healing. I don't know how many are offering help to fathers, but there are some, and you can always ask, or they can refer you to someone who can help. There is one in Luxembourg. You can find it here: www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp. Choose Luxembourg in the country dropdown list. If you click on "details", it will give you the address and phone number. I will also give you this information here: Neit Liewen 306, Rue de Rollingergrund Luxembourg 2441 LUXEMBOURG 45-29-67 If you are also still in contact with your lady, you can find a center in Paris as well. Here is the information on that one: F.E.A. Secours aux Futures Meres 6 Cour Saint - Eloi Paris 75012 FRANCE 43-41-55-65 There are four other centers in France that are on this list. There is an organization in the United States that is helping fathers speak out. Sometimes they will go to an abortion facility and carry a sign that says, "I regret lost fatherhood." You can find the web site of that organization here: www.silentnomoreawareness.org/ Also, there is an organization on YouTube that has videos of fathers. You can see it here: guysforlifeorg They have a web site: guysforlife.org. If you would like me to help spread your story, please let me know. Take care, Pat [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: a story like another? Author: Antonella [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06/18/09 8:09am Hi, you're right- the regret and sorrow will be always in your life after that kind of experience. I had an unplanned pregnancy, when I was 22 years old, ready to leave for USA, after I won an Internship with Schoolship- all inclusive- in College at UCLA, that was my dream coming true...!! A whole College year abroad BUT, since my flight was deleted because it was the day after the Twin Tower's attack (my plane was supposed to leave on Sept,12), I postponed it for the following month and later I found to be pregnant. My boyfriend was happy and supportive about it, however the final choice was only mine. I decided to keep my baby, my son. I dismissed the Internship and kept on studying here in Italy, going to University with my big belly and one of my best friend got my place in CA. Well, when she was back, we both graduated in Economics in the same Academic year, but I had my 2 yrs old son at my graduation- it was beautiful! About my boyfriend, he showed to be nice and responsible at first, then he was quite abusive as person, not reliable at all and very wild. We quit after almost 5 yrs together and later I met another guy, who is my husband now and who cares a lot about my son.. My husband had experienced 2 abortions in past and he feels very bad for this, this is why now he respects more life. His ex girlfriend was very obsessed and possessive with him, she told him she was on pill but that wasn't true, she missed taking pill and got pregnant, he didn't want the baby or that girlfriend. The second time, me and him were dating and she told him after almost 3 months that she was pregnant again (again the pill hadn't worked!), it was quite late, she only wanted to put him in the edge, you know... they had already split in the previous month, but she only wanted HIM back. That was an awful person, I believe. She choosed abortion twice since hubby didn't want to go on with her and he wasn't planning any baby in that moment. Anyway I think that there are very mean people in this world, who want to use children like an object for own goal and don't understand the real meaning of LIFE and respect. You know what??? Now I have a good carrier as Accountant, my son is 7 years old and he is the best student in his class AND no one of my friends, at my age today, have the same... They still have party-time and go back home drunk and alone. Thanks God I changed my way of life and after a hard work, I can say I feel very happy and proud as parent. No one can take your own decision, once you decide you must be able to face it and stand your own position.. and when people don't put Love, Life and Respect at the first place, they will regret it when it's too late and they have to "pay the bill". Life is tough, we don't need to make it tougher. Only God can really help us in the best way. Take care! bye!