| Subject: Re: i am pregnant...... and i am 14 |
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Pat
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Date Posted: 06/29/09 3:38pm
In reply to:
Tatiana
's message, "i am pregnant...... and i am 14" on 06/29/09 2:24am
Hi, tatiana,
First of all, please try to calm down! Killing yourself is not an option. It's not likely your parents will do more than yell at you, and maybe discipline you. Perhaps they will kick you out of the house, though that is unlikely. They need time to think it through just like you do. People don't make good decisions when they are in a panic, so don't even try to think what to do until you calm down. As for what the people at school are gonna think, well, they're gonna think you slept with someone! But perhaps they already figured that out. And if not, it is certainly common enough these days. They may also wonder why you don't get an abortion, but they will admire your courage. Just because you made one mistake doesn't mean you have to make two. Their opinion isn't nearly as important as your child's life!
You are no longer a child. Our society prolongs adolescence, and this is part of the problem that leads to so many pregnancies in teenaged women. You can raise a child. Billions have done it when they had a child at 14 or 15, and successfully, too. Obviously, you have some emotional growing up to do, but women have a tendency to accomplish that because pregnancy takes many months to arrive at the point of birth.
Once parents get used to the idea, they are usually very supportive, and they love their grandchild. I know this from personal experience as well. I have eight grandchildren, and one of them was born out of wedlock. He is just as precious as the others. I see no difference.
I don't normally mention this, but it seems appropriate here. If when you have learned what resources are available to you, you still don't think that you can raise this child, you can consider adoption.
Now, there ARE resources available. You didn't say where you live, but there are a lot of organizations in the English-speaking world that are there to help. You can find one in the United States by going here:
http://pregnancycenters.org/
You can find one elsewhere by going here:
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp
In addition, we will be here for you. Come and talk to us any time.
Abortion is not only deadly for babies, but is dangerous or deadly for women, too. It can destroy your future. Please don't hurt yourself or your baby.
Hugs,
Pat
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