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Subject: Re: someone please help

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luka

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Date Posted: 10/29/07 7:58pm
In reply to: Samantha 's message, "someone please help" on 10/29/07 11:59am

Hey honey. I think you know what you need to do here. But just in case you don't i will tell you~ I believe you should keep your baby. I think that abortion is wrong , but i have had more than one. I have felt less sure than you do now and had an abortion and have lived to regret that decision deeply. I know there are grey areas for some people regarding if and when abortion is right or wrong and obviously some circumstance are better than others for having babies. Your situation in my opinion is not as dire as some that i have heard of. I fully appreciate your fear and aprehension though, like i said i have been where you are now at a similar age.
What i am trying to say is that with my vast experience on this topic i can tell that from what you write that you already love your baby and will make a wonderful mother. You try to hold that feeling back and in because you are not sure if you will or can have an abortion. I hope that the full realisation of this love doesn't come after you have an abortion like it did for me in the past.
I am an intuitive person and i feel i have to say to you that i have a very good feeling about you having this baby. I know you're so young and there will be challenges but you have support and it's more than alot of people in your situation have. It does make a big difference to have that back up. You can do this, be brave honey- hold your belly and smile. You love your baby. Let go of the fear just walk right through it. Let yourself look at baby clothes. You're a mommy and your baby needs and loves you. Enjoy this time. Change this big is allways scary it's perfectly normal even for women who plan their babies, you can get through this. That scared feeling will ease when you decide to do what you feel is right and then you will be comforted. Deciding can feel like holding a hot potato sometimes can't it? Hold the abortion question and it hurts your heart so you toss it in the other hand which is the keep it question and thats scary also. However it's also got such a happy, exciting element too doesn't it? Thats because having a baby isn't meant to be doom and gloom it's actually really wonderful.
Confusion is never really confusion you know. It's just a denial of what you know is truth trying to make is something else.
You want your baby, so have her it's ok.
I think you're waiting for permission to have and want her. Well you have mine :) It's completely natural.

If you were to have a sonogram now you would see a minature human being complete with a tiny little arms and legs swimming around inside. When they turn to the side you can see a little profile and even guess to an extent what they will look like. I'm sure some women here can direct you to a place that can offer free sonograms.Maybe it will help the people around you who are pushing for abortion to see it too. In any case it's such a special moment to see your baby at this stage on a scan. I hope you are able to experience it with a light and happy heart, that is my wish for you.

Good luck sweet heart -i meant it, what ever you decide. We are here to listen and offer advice- not to judge.
Please will you let us know how what you decide and how you are? So often people come on here asking for advice and dissapear just as quick it's awful not knowing if they are ok or not.

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Re: someone please help

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Tracey (Welcome!!!)
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Date Posted: 12/ 9/08 2:54am

Samantha~
Hello and welcome to our pregnancy board! We hope to help guide and support you as you make this important decision. I think when you said, "I deep down know I do not believe in abortions" says alot! You are already a mother...now it's just time to decide which path you want to go. From what I gather from your post, an abortion would only complicate this situation even more. SO many women choose abortion in haste and then live for the rest of their lives to regret it--we have counseled and know MANY women who have gone through this nightmare. You sound like a strong woman who has goals and dreams and I am here to tell you a baby's not going to ruin these goals and dreams. My mother had three children and went to college while pregnant with me. She graduated and now has her Master's degree. She was able to create a healthy, happy environment for myself and my brothers as well as make her own dreams come true! You CAN do this, Samantha! You just have to set your mind towards your goal and be willing to seek help along the way. You're here and that's a BIG step! You're doing your research and asking for advice! That shows you already truly care about this little one! This little one will be lucky to have you as a mommy! :) Yes, this will be tough, I'm not gonna lie! But there are lots of places that can offer support and help for you during your pregnancy and even after. I advise you to contact your local crisis pregnancy center. They can offer support, help, and even financial help. The good news is, you are not alone! If you need help in finding a local Crisis Pregnancy Center, let us know. We just need your state and closest city and we will give you a list of centers that can offer you help! Samantha, please continue to come back and keep us posted! We promise to do our best to offer you support and guidance in the best way we know how. If you ever need to talk privately, feel free to contact myself, or any of the other girls via e-mail! Please keep us posted and let us know how we can help! In the meantime, you and this your little one are in my prayers!!! We're here for you!!!!
God bless,
Tracey