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Subject: Re: On the fence

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luka

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Date Posted: 12/30/07 5:56pm
In reply to: Shellie 's message, "Re: On the fence" on 12/28/07 4:01pm

Wow Shellie what a great post! It is so concise in explaining what happens in unplanned pregnancies particularly this part ~
being confused is such a normal part of an unplanned pregnancy. It's scary--especially when you are faced with doing it alone. I know, I've been there. And I think wanting out of it is just plain normal. It's normal to want things to go back how they were. But abortion does not do that. You can't make it so that you never were pregnant. And from your message I get the feeling you would indeed regret having an abortion.

God if only i realised before having the abortions i had had. It goes to show that the confusion of early pregnancy particularly unplanned ones can make you do enormously foolish things. I knew from experience and yet i did it again only to be left with this intense searing regret. Its the emptiest most dreadful feeling having an abortion. Nobody is saying there aren't plenty of reasons not to want to go ahead with a pregnancy but there is only one reason not to have an abortion. The crux of it is that there is a living forming human being inside of you, YOUR OWN CHILD. You can't get around that fact. You are ending his or her life, completely annilating their future taking their life. (what sort of person doesn't love their own child?) You can't errase it. And it will be devestatingly apparent after the abortion should you go through with it. I would say to anyone considering abortion that it's not a quick fix. It's a life long burden of guilt and regret for most. You can learn to acept your decison because you have to but it's allways on your conscience and you allways wonder about that baby that could have been , should have been, particularly if you go on to have more. I have so many regrets in my life they are heavy to carry around with you. Just think about it ladies this is serious stuff.

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