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Subject: Re: I have no one else to turn to...

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Sharon

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Date Posted: 03/ 3/08 2:35pm
In reply to: Mandy 's message, "Re: I have no one else to turn to..." on 02/25/08 7:27am

Mandy,

I'm sorry you're going through all of this right now. One thing to life your spirits: you're almost past the morning sickness mark! Usually the morning sickness (or all day sickness, in my case ;-) ends when you leave the first trimester.

I echo Lori's message that you need to get vitamins. I'd contact a local adoption agency - an area crisis pregnancy center can give you contact information on them. (Look in the Yellow Pages un "abortion alternatives" for crisis pregnancy centers.) Also, if money is an issue, most states have programs that will cover your prenatal visits and your labor and delivery. You'd want to check with your county health nurse and/or a crisis pregnancy center for information on that.

Don't feel bad about choosing adoption. That is a VERY loving act. In fact, I'm always heartbroken by hearing women say they're choosing abortion because they couldn't stand to place their baby in an adoptive home. That seems so supremely selfish! So, the fact that you KNOW you're not ready to have a baby and know that you want your baby to grow up in a stable home says a GREAT deal about you as a mother. Even though you don't plan to raise your child, you are given him or her an incredible gift - a gift that reflect deep caring on your part.

Have you thought about open adoption? There are varying levels of interaction that families and birth mothers choose, but basically you get to know the family adopting your baby and maintain contact with your baby as he or she grows. The women I know who've chosen this route have wonderful things to say about it.

I'll say a prayer for you.

Sharon

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Pat
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Date Posted: 03/ 5/08 7:07pm

Hi, Mandy,

I got distracted; I apologize for the delay.

Adoption is a good choice. We have four adopted children in our family. Usually the adoptive parents pay medical costs.

Look around, talk to a crisis pregnancy agency. They can tell you about adoption opportunities in your area. You can also work on adoption through the internet. I can't give you any information on how good any of the sites are.

Adoption will most likely be difficult emotionally, but it is a very loving thing to do, and you can keep in touch with the adoptive parents if you want.

Good luck to you!

Hugs,
Pat