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Subject: help me


Author:
donna
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Date Posted: 12/20/08 1:17pm

i had my abortion yesterday , as my partner has 2 children and i have 3 we thought it was best not to continue with the pregnancy as we have only been together 3 months , he promised he would be with me all night as i had a medical abortion but his was with his children and are still with them now im hurting physialy and emotionally i realy wanted this baby but let people talk me into thinking it was wrong to want please help me

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[> Subject: Re: help me


Author:
Shellie
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Date Posted: 12/21/08 2:20am

Dear Donna,

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this terrible experience. Abortion can seem like the answer, but really no one wins. Abortion hurts women. I'm sorry that I can't make things better for you. I do have some advice to make things somewhat easier: turn to God. He loves you and he will forgive you. I'll pray for God's comfort during this tough time.

Some women find comfort in naming their baby and writing down their feelings, either in a letter to their baby or in a journal. You may want to contact a local crisis pregnancy center, as they provide free post-abortion counseling.

Please feel free to post her as often as you like.

Hugs,

Shellie
[> Subject: Re: help me


Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 12/21/08 6:41am

Donna,

You said you had a medical abortion. Have you taken the second course of pills? If not, there is hope for you. Go to a doctor immediately. If he gives you progesterone daily you can reverse the effects of the first medication. If you have already completed it, then all I can do is try to comfort you. We love you dearly, and we are so sorry you are going through this!

God loves you so much He died for you. He is ready to forgive you. Shellie's advice is really good. The local crisis pregnancy center provides excellent post-abortion programs.

We will also be here for you.

First be assured of God's forgiveness, and then go from there.

God forgave two people in the Bible. The first was David, who coveted Bathsheba, so he arranged for her husband to go to the front lines in battle so he would be killed. But God forgave him and arranged that he was the ancestor of Jesus. Saul was involved in stoning Christians. He was present at the stoning of Stephen, who prayed for him as he died, and as a result, Jesus appeared to Saul in a vision, and Saul became the Apostle Paul. Because of Paul's preaching, I am a Christian because he preached to my ancestors. And if God is willing to forgive these two people, He is waiting and eager to forgive you.

Please come here and let us talk to you and lift you up. You will be in our prayers.

Hugs,
Pat
[> Subject: Re: help me


Author:
Sharon
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Date Posted: 12/21/08 6:48pm

Donna,

I hope Pat's words get to you in time. It is a blessing that you found this board. Perhaps you will be able to reverse the effects of the first drug, as Pat said. And, if not, you have found a safe and loving place to help you grieve and to find some peace...

We are here for you.

Sharon
[> Subject: Re: help me


Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 12/21/08 11:32pm

Hi Donna,

I'm glad you found this board; it must be very challenging to have to have been alone after the abortion.

I don't know how much consolation it is to you, but it's certainly understandable to be experiencing the feelings and grief you are, and you're definitely not alone. If you think it would be helpful you can google "Post Abortion Stress Syndrome" and read about how others have dealt with it.

I'm so sorry you were pressured into a decision you did not want to make. I second what the others have said about turning to God - He made both you and the baby you are grieving for and He holds the wisdom and comfort that no human being can give a heart that is in the wilderness.

You are tenderly in my thoughts and I will be praying for you. I hope you'll take things one day at a time and take good care of yourself. Please feel free to post here in this safe haven as often as you like. Many women struggling with the afteraffects of abortion have done so. You are absolutely respected and welcome here.

With Kindness,

Heather



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