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Subject: Re: Changed Mind Author: Shellie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 01/ 3/09 5:26pm In reply to: Leah 's message, "Re: Going Crazy" on 01/ 3/09 10:11am Leah, My heart goes out to you! You are on a roller coaster, for sure. Just in your posts here I've seen you go up and down. This is such a normal part of an unplanned pregnancy! It's scary to see your life going every-which-way with no control over your own destination. Abortion presents its self as a way to get that control back. However, just like Melanie so eloquently said: "Having and abortion now will not ever make things the same. They will be forever changed one way or another." And Heather was right on when she said: "Circumstances ebb and flow, but aborting a human life is permanent and you can't ever get them back." Leah, really listen to those words, they are full of truth. You've experienced an abortion that has caused you pain, already. And I suspect aborting this pregnancy would hurt you much more than the previous one. I have a few reasons for suspecting this. First of all, you have allowed yourself to connect with your baby, even choosing names. You've seen your baby through ultrasound. And because you've aborted before, a 2nd abortion is usually more guilt-ridden. You have a lot of friends who are due around the time you are. Having their kids as a constant reminder of the one you terminated would be hard. I’m not sure you’ve really thought this through or if you’re having a weak moment and just wanted to vent. I too, would like to know what happened. Although I know with the fears and emotions that rule over a woman going through an unplanned pregnancy—nothing really needs to “happen” to make you feel like you can’t do it. But was there a particular event that has caused you to change your mind? I believe abortion can be a form of Self-Harm. Is there a reason why you want to hurt yourself? Or are you just letting fear take charge? You are stronger than you think. And you deserve better than the pain of another abortion. By the way, I love Johnny Cash. Have you ever seen his last video, Hurt, when he was close to death and was looking back at his life (with a lot of regrets)? He didn’t write the song, but it was definitely HIS song. We have the ability to make choices and have fewer things to regret. Here’s the video: Don’t give in to the fears! You CAN do this! Hugs, Shellie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Going Crazy Author: Pat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01/ 4/09 11:15am Leah, One more thing. You may FEEL alone, but you're not. We're here for you, and more importantly, God is holding you in His hand. Remember the poem, Footprints in the Sand? It says that there were footprints in the sand, two sets. And after awhile, there was only one set. The person asked God, why He had abandoned him and let him walk alone, and Jesus said, that was when I picked you up and carried you. Let Jesus carry you. The full poem is below: One night a man had a dream. He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the LORD. Across the sky flashed scenes from his life. For each scene, he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand: one belonging to him, and the other to the LORD. When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of his life there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times in his life. This really bothered him and he questioned the LORD about it. "LORD, you said that once I decided to follow you, you'd walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life, there is only one set of footprints. I don't understand why when I needed most you would leave me." The LORD replied, "My son, My precious child, I love you and I would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you." Hugs, Pat