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Subject: Re: Going Crazy

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Pat

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Date Posted: 01/21/09 1:23am
In reply to: Leah 's message, "Re: Going Crazy" on 01/20/09 9:49pm

Hi, Leah,

I cracked up when I read what you told your bf. Sorry, couldn't help it! I think it was a good answer, myself. :) What does he expect? You folks did the thing that causes babies, and even though that isn't what you intended, it happens. You can remind him that few babies are perfectly timed. Hey, by now, your baby is more than just a good idea. :)

He does need time to adjust. You did. He may try to pressure you about it. Just stand firm. He will eventually give up. Let us know how it goes. We will be here any time you need to vent. We will pray for all of you, that it will go well. You'll just have to be patient and strong, and take one day at a time.

Hugs,
Pat

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Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 01/21/09 8:29am

Hi Leah,

Well hopefully you have some relief from having finally told him? I think it worked out best for you that you worked out in your own mind and heart what you wanted to do first. Actually, considering the range of reactions unexpecting dads have had (you can even go back and read on this forum!) yours did pretty well.

It's definitely hardest when they first hear. Once he has time to adjust to what you've been processing for months he may well come around to be highly supportive. But if not, you can still be ok.

Sounds like you're very perceptive to his need for time to process, though. I hope the best for you guys.

Refresh my memory, how far along are you now? 14weeks? You'll probably be able to feel the movements your baby is making in the next couple of weeks, but it will probably be a couple of months before they are strong enough to be felt from the outside by your bf.

Hearing the heartbeat or better yet watching an ultrasound would probably be a huge help in the processing for your bf.

Actually, if you're past 13 weeks there's a good chance that the gender can be seen on an ultrasound, if that's something you want to know ahead of time.....

Any guesses as to what you're having? I gave up trying to guess the gender of my babies beforehand as I was always wrong, lol.

Heather