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Re: Unplanned, scared, and hoping for advice

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Shellie

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Date Posted: 02/10/08 12:15pm
In reply to: Larissa 's message, "Unplanned, scared, and hoping for advice" on 02/10/08 8:43am

Hi Larissa,

Thanks for posting here. I hope you will find the support you need. An unplanned pregnancy can be scary and make you feel so alone in the world. So my wish for you is for you to have a place to come to share your concerns. The good news is; you have several months to prepare. And because you've already chosen to continue your pregnancy, you don't have to worry about the "what am I going to do" stage. You can focus on how you're going to make it work....and it will work! I know it's scary to wonder how you'll afford it, but you'll see that things just tend to work out.

I'd be happy to offer some practical advice, but just wanted to send you a quick note to let you know I've seen your message and I'm here for you. Post as often as you like!

Take care,

Shellie

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[> Subject: Re: Unplanned, scared, and hoping for advice

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Pat
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Date Posted: 02/10/08 12:32pm

Hi, Larissa,

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!

It's not unusual for a woman to feel like you do when she learns she's pregnant, even when she WANTS to have a baby and has been trying to have one. Among other things, the hormones of early pregnancy do that. We women are pregnant for nine months for a reason. It gives us time to prepare for the baby on the outside. You also have time to deal with the financial issues. You may find it helpful to go to a crisis pregnancy agency, because they can often help you find a better financial situation, or provide other help. You can find one in your phone book under Abortion Alternatives, or you can go here: www.pregnancycenters.org .

Because of your age, some doctors will try to put scare stories in your head. Don't let them get to you. If you find one like that, look for someone else. I also encourage you to find a doctor who will help you give birth naturally, because you both will be much better off. You can often find out who the good doctors are by talking to the mothers in La Leche League. Also, you can get recommendations from the pregnancy center near you.

To help with the financial issues, I encourage you to breastfeed. It is much less expensive, and much better for your baby. And it also means fewer doctor bills. Small babies don't require a lot of fancy stuff, and there is often a charity that will help provide diapers.

As far as your boyfriend is concerned, you'll just have to see how he acts. Nothing is cast in stone, but my hope is for the best for you. You are really lucky that he is so supportive. That's rare.

You are about to embark on one of the most wonderful adventures a woman ever experiences. My thoughts go with you. Come here any time you need to vent or have questions, or just want to talk.

Hugs,
Pat