Subject:  Re: Looking for a voice other then the ones in my head |
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Shellie
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Date Posted: 06/25/08 8:29am
In reply to:
Carrie
's message, "Looking for a voice other then the ones in my head" on 06/23/08 9:44pm
Hi Carrie,
I only have a minute but I wanted to post to let you know that I've read your message, and that I'm here to support you the best that I can through cyberspace.
How far along are you? My guess is that you're pretty early into the pregnancy, which means you have some thinking time. And I recommend that you give yourself plenty of time to make this life-changing decision.
Try not to let your last pregnancy take part in making this decision. Every pregnancy is different and most are very uneventful. My first pregnancy was by far my most difficult (he also was in the NICU for 6 weeks). The 3 after that were walk in the park, compared.
Also, keep in mind that it's normal to not want an unplanned pregnancy, at first. It's hard to feel like you'll ever be happy about this, but you'd be surprised by how your feelings can change once you’re not so worried about how this will change your life. Usually time helps us out here. When a mom begins to bond with her baby, the fears seem subside.
I do not support a woman’s right to choose, but it’s not just because I believe the baby has a right to continue living. It’s also because I feel it’s rare that aborting your own child is “best” for you. It’s a rare woman who can pay a doctor to end her baby’s life, and then not be adversely affected by the experience. I know these are harsh words, but it’s also a fact. Being pro-choice doesn’t protect these women from the pain, guilt, and regret they usually battle with. I’ve talked with hundreds of post-abortive women who would do anything to reverse their choice.
Carrie, I know this is a very tough time for you. I can only imagine how worried you must feel at the prospect of adding another child to your family. Or how scared you must feel about possibly terminating your pregnancy. My heart goes out to you as you wrestle with this decision and try to make one that you feel you can live with.
How does the father feel about this unplanned pregnancy? Is he being supportive? Are your friends and other family members being supportive? Well, I really must run, but I’d love to continue talking with you. I’ll be checking the board daily for your posts.
Best wishes,
Shellie
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