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Subject: Re: New here..

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Pat

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Date Posted: 07/ 9/07 6:44am
In reply to: Meaghan 's message, "New here.." on 07/ 8/07 4:07pm

Hi, Meaghan,

Congratulations! That's awesome!

I don't understand your mother at all! Here you are, married, and having babies is something married people do! You haven't ruined your life! You have started your future!

I gather she didn't want you to marry your husband. Well, that's water under the bridge.

You could write her a letter. That will give her a chance to simmer down. Or maybe your husband would write to her.

There are probably other ways, but that's what seems most reasonable to me. Let me know if that will work for you.

She might get upset, and she might let you have it, but when that baby comes, she will almost certainly dote on her grandchild!

I ought to know. I have five grandchildren. I waited a long time for them, and I love them passionately!

Hugs,
Pat

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Author:
Lori
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Date Posted: 07/ 9/07 11:45am

Hi, Meaghan,

Welcome to the board. I like Pat don't understand why your mom would be upset unless she didn't want you to get married. That is water under the bridge so to speak because you are married and married people have children.

Don't let what others think or say upset you. You and your husband are married and are going to have a baby and you should be happy and enjoy this experience. Having your first child is so exciting and its something that should be enjoyed not worried over especially if your worrying about what others may think or say.

If I were you I would call your mom with your husband on the phone and tell her the good news or send her a card that says something like congratulations grandma! If your mom does say something like, what were you thinking? or something to that effect just say "mom, my husband and I are having our baby and we would like for you to be happy for us." Leave it at that, you owe no one any explanations. You do need to respect your parents and honor them but in doing so you can also let your parents know that this is your decision. A life has been created and no one can take that back.

Your mom is probably just concerned and that is okay most parents are concerned for their children. But, your an adult now there is no need to worry about disappointing your mom.

COngratulations!! Please continue to keep us updated. We wouild love to hear from you. If you need anyone to talk to please feel free to email me any time.

God Bless,
Lori