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Subject: Re: Getting close...kinda scared

Author:
Heather

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Date Posted: 09/ 4/07 7:41pm
In reply to: Laurel 's message, "Getting close...kinda scared" on 09/ 3/07 11:22pm

Hi Laurel,

Poor thing! Why is it people don't cooperate when we really need them to??

I guess if yours were my situation I would shut everything out and ask myself who, if anyone, I truly want at the birth. Then matter of factly make your decision known - graciously but unapologetically.

I'm so excited for you that your birth is close! Don't worry too much about what to do as a mom. It may be true that you don't have a lot of experience, but you'll probably also be surprised at the instincts you have buried. I know when I had my first child the whole thing was just so strange - wonderful, but very strange. But instincts kicked in and 9 years later he's a great source of joy to me and a very comfortable companion.

As a side note, maybe your mother's response, suspicions etc mirror more her own fears or experience than what you elicit on your own?

Take good care of yourself!

Heather

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[> Subject: Re: Getting close...kinda scared

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luka
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Date Posted: 09/ 5/07 5:09pm

Oh man do i hear you! I have been in that situation of people only thinking of themselves so many times and making me feel guilty and like the meat in the sandwhich just as you are now. It's so confusing when it comes from those who are supposed to love and care from you isn't it? Don't let others make you feel guilty for wanting to do things your way. Trust me if you let the guilt sway you you'll regret it. It won't make you feel better to go along with what your mom or anyone else thinks it will only make you feel increasingly resentful and ruin what should be such lovely time in your life. If youre going to make a mistake at least let it be your mistake and not something someone else pressured you into know what i mean? This time is precious and it's not a dress rehersal. Please don't doubt yourself. Do what YOU think is best. Grr i wish people would give you a break, far out i can so relate to what you're going through. This is a time when all you should be concerned about is you and your baby. Your family should be there to help that happen not to burden you with their own agendas or insecurities. You sound like a very smart woman. I think you'll a great mum just keep on trusting yourself!