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Subject: Re: did I make the right decision?

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Heather

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Date Posted: 03/15/07 4:16pm
In reply to: Dixie 's message, "did I make the right decision?" on 03/13/07 6:08pm

I think you made an excellent decision; the one you can live with and be at peace with yourself. If you have walked out on the abortion table twice already, that speaks volumes about where your heart is and isn't. I'm so glad you were able to withstand the pressure. In hindsight it will be a fleeting time of difficulty overcoming that, but the regret that often plagues women who weren't able to stave off the pressure and made the choice to abort their baby when their heart told them otherwise lasts a lifetime.

I don't know, obviously, whether or not your man will come around. The odds seem to favor that he will once your son/daughter is born. But if he doesn't, it seems to me that a woman strong enough to know that she couldn't kill her baby simply because he/she was unplanned is probably also strong enough to see that his unwillingness to support you in your choice communicates that he might not be the ideal person for you.

I hope it turns out for the best! I'm glad you found this forum. There's not much hear that isn't understandable and/or relatable.

With Kindness,

Heather

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Re: did I make the right decision?

Author:
Donna
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Date Posted: 03/16/07 2:00pm

Hi,
I think you've definetly made the right decision for you and your baby. I just can't understand why a man thinks they can so easily just drive women to the abortion clinic and think everythings gonna be alright...

If he feels the way he does, I don't think there's really anything you can say or do to make him feel differently. I think that time and circumstances are what it's gonna take. Maybe not saying anything at all to him will speak louder than any words you could scream could. Maybe feeling as tho he is loosing you..will make him think about things in a different light.

The fact that you are already a mom , you knew exactly what you would be missing had you gone thru with the abortion. I'm so happy that you chose life for your little one.

I wish you the very best and I pray things turn out the way you want them to for you and your baby.
Blessings,
Donna