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Subject: Re: Unplanned...

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Pat

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Date Posted: 06/28/07 2:55pm
In reply to: Erin 's message, "Unplanned..." on 06/27/07 8:15pm

Erin,

Congratulations!

This is where the rubber meets the road. Will this man cherish you both? Only time will tell. I'd talk to him about how you need to find out whether or not he truly is the man for you. Tell him that he is asking you to commit violence against the child who is the product of your love. Ask him why he would do this. Tell him your child already has a heartbeat.

Tell him gently. Give him something to think about.

It may also be that he simply doesn't understand that your baby already exists, and needs your protection. Try to explain to him about this, about how your baby is developing. Lots of people have bought into the lie that this is just a blob of cells, and something less than human. The more you can tell him about your baby's development, the better.

Then give him space and time. Guys don't connect with the reality of pregnancy and a new baby in the same way women do, and it takes them longer.

Then start talking to him about how you will plan for the future. You're both old enough and should be responsible enough to become a family. You ARE a family, but it would be best to make it a true reality. You're in this together.

Your experience with the father's rejection is very common, and if you are at all like most women (and I imagine you are), the father's support would mean more than the support of anyone else. But he's coming around. Hang in there. You will know soon enough if he is potentially a good father. We'll be here for you.

Hugs,

Pat

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Author: Lori [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 07/ 2/07 10:36am Hi Erin, I just wanted to see how you were doing. Please feel free to come back to the board. We would love to hear from you. Your in our thoughts and prayers. God Bless, Lori