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Subject: Re: Thanks

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Nancy

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Date Posted: 12/14/06 5:57pm
In reply to: luka 's message, "Re: Thanks" on 12/11/06 2:47pm

I just read your post and wanted to add my feelings. Last year, 13 years after being told I would never have another child, I found out I was pregnant. It was incredibly unexpected, and I did not want a baby at all. At that point, I wasn't against abortion, but I didn't feel it was right for me. So I chose to have my baby, and it was a real struggle. I was on bedrest the whole time and and I almost lost her so many times. 13 weeks before my due date, my water broke, and she was born 2 weeks later. My point is this-my baby, born 11 weeks before she was due, at 2 lbs. 6.8 oz., fought so hard to stay alive. Not only her, but the 14 other babies that were on the critical side of the NICU. Every one of them fought so hard to stay alive, and several of them were born at less than 1 pound and as early as 24 weeks (16 weeks early). If babies will fight this hard to stay alive, even being born so early, then every baby deserves the right to have that chance.

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Heather
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Date Posted: 12/16/06 11:42pm

Hi Nancy,

I almost missed your post buried in there on another thread; thank you for sharing that from your life! I can definitely relate to the 'incredibly unexpected' baby. You didn't share the outcome of your little one, or how motherhood is going for you but it is gratifying and bittersweet to hear you observation of the fight for survival that even the weakest and tiniest of human beings make. I've alway thought there was considerable 'simple wisdom' in the thought that a person is a person, no matter how small they are. Where would we be if we kept a person's size as a standard for their right to life 'outside' womb? This would translate to a 1 year old infant being less worthy of life than a 5 year old child because they're small and less developed, and a 5 year old child being less worthy of life than an adult for the same reason.

Anyway, thank you for taking the time to share your experience. My own son was born 6 weeks early, not nearly as significant of prematurity as your daughter, but early enough for me to spend that same reflective time in the NICU at the 'tiny people' around me fighting for health and life.
My son was just so tiny, also. And yet now here he is, ready turn 9 years old in just a few weeks, and the picture of good health and boyhood. He is a wonderful child - brilliant, funny, kind and a great companion. We're extremely proud of him. And he was the same 'Andrew' when he was born so weak and tiny, just in need of care of nurture!

With Kindness,

Heather