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Subject: Re: Unplanned but Hopeful

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Pat

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Date Posted: 12/17/06 6:09am
In reply to: michaela 's message, "Re: Unplanned but Hopeful" on 12/17/06 4:31am

Hi, Michaela,

First of all, if you don't want to have an abortion, don't have one! You have a right to refuse abortion.

There are agencies that will help you with your problems. To find one near you, go here:

Pregnancy Centers.

They also offer online counseling. These agencies are there to help you with the problems you face. You don't have to lose your home. Try not to look at the worst case, even though it's tempting. You are in a panic right now, and people don't make good decisions when they are in panic mode. It is critically important that you follow your heart and make a decision you can live with. All of the difficulties you face now will seem like nothing if you go against your own conscience.

Your baby is depending on you for your protection. Please protect your baby.

If you give us some more concrete details about the specifics of your problems, we may be able to come up with some suggestions.

Please keep in touch. We will be here for you. Come when you have questions, problems, or just need to vent, or to talk to someone.

Hugs,
Pat

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Melanie
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Date Posted: 12/18/06 5:48am

Hi Michaela,

I would love to give you the encouragement that you need. First of all, if others feel you are capable of doing a job, you probably are.

If you don't want to have an abortion, you really don't have to. It's not necessarily easy to do what you feel you want to do, but going against what you desire in your heart of hearts on this isn't going to be really easy, either. There are no guarantees in life whether it is your house or not, and that is true whether or not you have a baby now. You could have an abortion and still lose the house. You could have the baby and still keep it. WE don't have a crystal ball. IT's really easy to freak out and feel that there are no other options, but that is rarely the case.

You don't say what makes you feel that you would lose the home if you have your baby, but I have my doubts that it's a given. You still have time to plan and figure things out. I think that's why we have 9 month pregnancies -- so we have time to work out the details.

If you want help and support, you might also check into an organization called, "The Nurturing Network". They are geared specifically towards helping college and career women to be able to carry their babies to term if that is what they want. The number is 1-800-TNN-4MOM. The e-mail address is: tnn@nurturingnetwork.org
They have a website here:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org/needhelp.html

If there is anything I can do to help, just let me know.

--Melanie

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