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Date Posted: 07:55:53 06/22/00 Thu
Author: JeAnne
Subject: Re: Topic: FA's...sorry long!
In reply to: Jane 's message, "Topic: FA's" on 07:07:54 06/22/00 Thu

And here I thought FA stood for Fat Acceptance...ah well...

Now on topic...there is a *huge* difference between those that like "fluffy" or "voluptuous" gals and feeders.

When I first stumbled onto the chat room scene, I frequented bbw channels and it was truly an EPIPHANY. For once in my life I felt like a goddess...I'm not saying that you can't feel that way without a man's approval, but it felt really good to feel the way a skinny attractive woman must feel walking into a bar. I spent about 7 months dating like crazy...being wined and dined and it felt good dammit! Then after awhile I started to hear and feel the prejudice for average sized women, and I thought to myself *that's not right*. I didn't want to feel like I had to be in this "special world" in order to be beautiful, respected, loved etc.. so I still hung around those channels but started to branch out into other chats etc.. and a few months later met my honey. My honey loves ME..whether I'm 100 pounds or 400 pounds. We have this conversation all the time (mostly when I am PMSing) and every time it's the same. He thinks I'm gorgeous, smart, talented and sexy because that's me...in whatever size I am. I guess the point of this is FAs helped me to realize that for myself and that was a good thing.

Feeders are frightening...at least in my experience. I went on three dates with a doctor (well resident/doctor training) who was a feeder. He was totally obsessed with the food I put into my mouth and constantly wanted me full. I did a little reading up on this and the psychology of it is that feeders fantasize about two things: 1)to be surrounded by so much love/flesh etc... sort of back to the womb/mother thing and 2) to see a woman so overweight that she is incapable of taking care of herself and is dependent on the feeder to provide.

Because of my experience I have an absolute opinion on this and I find the feeder concept revolting. It's just as bad as someone telling you you have to be thin to be beautiful.

Live and let live!

JeAnne

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Re: Topic: FA's...sorry long! -- Rosie, 11:20:45 06/23/00 Fri
- Re: Topic: FA's...sorry long! -- JeAnne, 13:01:51 06/23/00 Fri