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Date Posted: 16:18:45 05/17/16 Tue
Author: Sue (Thanks)
Subject: Re: Feeling horribly sad and reaching out to know I am not alone
In reply to: Kel 's message, "Re: Feeling horribly sad and reaching out to know I am not alone" on 17:57:03 05/16/16 Mon

Thank you, Kel. It's just a huge adjustment to go from being a major part of your children's lives every day for years to not seeing them for a week at a time. It's awful. And then last night I made the mistake of asking my ex to explain how long he knew, etc. he's really pissed at me bc I sent him some texts with choice words regarding his betrayal of me and our family. He told me, "I'm bi not gay so I could have just as easily left you for a woman as a man." He listed off all my flaws. He told me if I look inside myself I'll figure out why he left. That hurt like hell. It also interests me because while he blamed me for many things last summer as he was preparing to leave, most of the talk was about how he needed to be with a man. I know I was not perfect, and of course I'll worry could I have done something differently to be a better wife. But then I remember he never told me anything about these flaws when we were married. And maybe, just maybe, he's the one that blew our marriage apart when he had to have sex with a man. But man does he have a way of making me doubt myself.

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Re: Feeling horribly sad and reaching out to know I am not alone -- Rob (the doubt=gaslight), 15:22:54 05/19/16 Thu