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Date Posted: 11:52:39 04/22/03 Tue
Author: Heidi
Subject: I agree with Beverlee...(more)
In reply to: Beverlee 's message, "I also hope he's serious (m)" on 09:45:51 04/22/03 Tue

We use Medicaid. And if anyone thinks for one second that I do it because I am mooching off the government, well, then they have no idea.

Trust me in the long run, I will more than pay it back, but right now there is no way I can afford to take my child to the doctor or get him thousands of dollars worth of hearing equipment. My dh will be making a fairly good salary in a few years and much of that will go to taxes. If you need the help, then get it, please.

People don't like paying taxes to pad wallets of fatcats, but I will be happy to pay taxes to help feed and house and educate people who are going through a rough time. I don't agree with staying on federal aid forever, but I don't agree with keeping you and your kids in a bad situation to stay off of it.

I also am not suggesting you divorce your dh, but I don't see how you can trust him. It sounds to me from your post that it doesn't matter to him, and if your feelings about it aren't important, than that doesn't paint a very good picture of how he feels about you.

It is never easy, these decisions, but maybe you should start thinking about what's good for you. If you want to go to school and get a teaching degree, trust me there are ways to do it. I went to college with a baby, and dh too. There are lots of "single" moms who do it. That is not to say that it is easy, because it is not. Oh, and kids can do fine in a day care setting, and don't punish yourself for it if that is what you need to do. But, and I firmly believe this, there is no reason you cannot go to school and get your degree and teach.

I only want what is best for you. I hope you know that, but maybe I will stop giving my opinion on this as well.

Heidi

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