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Date Posted: 12:18:19 04/22/03 Tue
Author: donnabelle70
Subject: Okay, I'm probably going to regret this but (m)
In reply to: marshun(Martha) 's message, "Well, DH and I had the rest of our talk(for now) last night....more" on 09:05:27 04/22/03 Tue

The first thing that popped into my head when I read your statement about not wanting to cost the taxpayers money...don't you think that getting federal help for your schooling while trying to make a safer life for your children would put less drain on the 'system' than if you and/or your DH get arrested and your children are taken away and put into foster care?! I know that sounds harsh, but you yourself have admitted that you will be held responsible for the welfare and safety of your children if something happens or if he gets arrested. No matter how much he thinks you are over-reacting...he is BREAKING THE LAW and putting you and your children in danger. Can you trust him not to 'smoke' and drive? Are you the only parent who ever drives your children? There are quite a few public service announcements on tv right now about the dangers of driving under the influence of drugs.

DH has a first cousin who is going through a divorce (and I'm not saying divorce him, just using her as an example) and she and her kids are living with her parents while she goes to school for an early childhood education degree at the community college...but so that she is not a burden on her parents she has applied for any and all monies she is entitled to as a single parent of two small children. I do know that if she were to move out she would also get assistance with her rent, etc and she gets help with her daycare expenses right now, too.

Another thing to remember is...your DH will owe you child support (even if you are just separated) probably somewhere to the tune of 34% of his income. That's money that can be deducted directly from his check and paid to the child support office and then given directly to you.

Do what you feel you need to do...but don't let him belittle you into thinking you're being silly because you care about your and your children's welfare. He's being extremely selfish by not owning up to his responsibilities as an ADULT...I don't know how old he is..but I'm assuming he's over the age of 18 and he knows what he is doing is wrong....otherwise he wouldn't have to hide it from you.

Now, take this post with a grain of salt if you want...remember that these are the ramblings of a hormonal pregnant woman. ;o) But this hormonal pregnant woman hates to see you go through all of this when you DO have options...even if you don't feel like they are viable ones. And, as a taxpayer, please please please put my tax dollars to good use...I'd much rather support someone like you than a baby-making drug addict who just keeps having babies to make more money!

HUGS!!!!!!!!

Donna

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  • Thank You all for your support and PLEASE, don't stop posting to me...m -- marshun(Martha), 13:06:58 04/22/03 Tue
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