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Date Posted: 10:51:30 03/22/06 Wed
Author: 23
Subject: Re: 2 argue: Relationship Red Flags
In reply to: Jes 's message, "2 argue: Relationship Red Flags" on 16:43:23 03/21/06 Tue

Yeah, I've been many of those things. I can't imagine a person who hasn't. Jesus, maybe, but then he was a bit of an egotist, too.

I have to comment on a couple of them:

"He sits in the car, honking the horn, or starts to drive away, while you are still in the house/apartment, trying to get ready to go out. He knows you aren't ready yet, but he goes out to the car anyway. He gets angry and frustrated if you aren't ready the instant HE is. Your life is expected to run on HIS schedule."

I do this shit, but only because the wife is always running late. It's not that I am upset that she isn't on MY schedule, it's that I'm upset that she isn't on OUR (agreed upon) schedule. I'm guessing this is the case with most couples who have this problem, but I could be wrong.

"Is over socially opinionated. At first you think he's well educated, and become intrigued some of the odd facts he knows. Later you realize all these facts add up to the whole, "fighting the good fight" mentality. He's always trying to seek justice, prove wrong, pinpoint facts, find the irony, uncover the conspiracy, etc. His brain is infatuated with this shit. It's all part of the "holier than thou" mindset, how he has everything "figured out" and you should feel proud to be with such a brave man. GAG."

Sounds like this woman/women are projecting their own insecurities on to their guy. I can't understand how a strong sense of social justice and a desire to stay informed is a bad thing unless you are insecure about your own knowledge in this area or ashamed of your own lack of conviction (or you are just apathetic and selfish). It also sounds like this woman who wrote this specific one is a manipulator type that assumes everyone else does what they do to project a certain image or fill a certain role (like she does). Some people are just passionate about things. I guess that's a foreign concept to some.

So yeah, I wouldn't give any credence to this list. Human beings are flawed. The point is not necessarily to find one that isn't, it's to find a way to live with the flaws held by the people you love. It must be remembered that a huge flaw (maybe one of the biggest) is not being tolerant or understanding of the flaws in others and not accepting them for who they are.

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[> Re: 2 argue: Relationship Red Flags -- Jes, 11:10:31 03/22/06 Wed [1]

23 - I posted that for that 1 thing I knew you'd pick up on! LOL!

"He breaks up with you "for your own good", using excuses like "you will be miserable with me" or "you need to be free" or "you aren't ready for sex", then he begs for you to come back."

"You don't want me Dotty. I'm a bad guy...a rebel." - PeeWee Herman

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