Q1) As much as someone may tell you, and as well as you may know them, and as empathetic as you may both be, I think it's almost impossible to truly understand what the other person went through. Your feelings, and your interpretation of their feelings, are coloured and shaped by so many things both past and present. The effect it has on a marriage, or any other relationship, depends on how the people involved handle it, are they supportive or dismissive? Do they accept responsibility where warranted? Do they forgive or at least let go of resentments and hurt where warranted? -- Cindy's Cottage

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Date Posted: 17:52:05 10/09/07 Tue
Author: Carla
Subject: Q1) As much as someone may tell you, and as well as you may know them, and as empathetic as you may both be, I think it's almost impossible to truly understand what the other person went through. Your feelings, and your interpretation of their feelings, are coloured and shaped by so many things both past and present. The effect it has on a marriage, or any other relationship, depends on how the people involved handle it, are they supportive or dismissive? Do they accept responsibility where warranted? Do they forgive or at least let go of resentments and hurt where warranted?
In reply to: Tracy 's message, "Mermaid in a Bowl of Tears ~ Part 5 ~ An Aran Idyll" on 06:13:33 10/09/07 Tue

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Q2) I think it cost Casey a deal of his pride to have to go to Jamie for help and to realise that if it all went beyond saving, he may have thrown Pamela straight into Jamie's arms. I think it also made him realise that with Pamela in his life, the consequences of his actions rebound even more on her than on himself. For Pamela, I think it cost her the last of any innocence she may have been harbouring and any illusions about just how difficult being married to Casey would be at times. I hope it also showed them that their love is worth fighting for, worth getting past the things that have stood unspoken between them in the last few months. (NT) -- Carla, 17:55:05 10/09/07 Tue

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