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Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Ross to JenniAnn [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 17:37:59 11/07/24 Thu In reply to: JenniAnn 's message, "Re: Pro spanker or spankee" on 04:59:40 11/05/24 Tue To JenniAnn: Thank you for sharing your story. You hated the spankings you got from your parents, but you like being punished that way by your husband, crying over the knee like a baby. I understand it can work that way for us spankos, but it's still hard to wrap my head around how something so hated can become desired as an adult. How do you relate your adult discipline to the spankings you received from your parents? Do you want your husband to take a parental role? Do you feel humiliated when you are punished like you were growing up? Are spankings fair, and do you believe you deserve them when you get them? Do spankings from your husband influence or modify your behavior? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: JenniAnn to Ross [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:35:00 11/08/24 Fri Hi Ross, good questions, I have difficulties to understand how one can turn something so horrible and hated into something positive. I have read that some psychologists suggest this is one way of trying to overcome a difficult experience like humiliating spankings into something desired. But not only this, my husband plays a big role here. I love him with all my heart and I feel the trust and love from him when he spanks me. Also, this was never a domestic discipline from the start. I have always loved sexual spankings and he spanked me as foreplay since we met. It slowly advanced to harder spankings trying new implements. I started to ask him to spank me hard at times when I felt I needed a good cry, sometimes for something I did but not necessarily. I wanted to lie over his knees and kick and cry. It made me feel better. Then one time when I really had misbehaved, he had had it and took me over his knees and started to spank me hard and long. I felt embarrassed and humiliated but in a positive way. Completely the opposite from how I felt after a parental spanking. After this occassion we both were in agreement that he could spank me as punishment. I hate the sting but I love the feeling afterwards when we cuddle and he is comforting me. So this is the story of my personal development within spanking. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Ross [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:59:54 11/08/24 Fri That is very interesting and thank you, JenniAnn. You started your adult relationship with spanking only as a fun sexual activity with your husband. If you don't mind me asking, was he the one to push you into trying it, and you reluctantly found you enjoyed it? In many cases I've seen, if one was abused as a child, it is difficult to trust that spanking can also be a pleasant experience. And even as play, it can bring back unwanted memories. Did you have any inclinations growing up that spanking was special to you, and could possibly be a good thing under the right circumstances? From a very early age, despite my hatred of getting a spanking, I had a strange pleasurable fascination for the idea that I did not understand. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]