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Subject: Is non consenual spanking ever right? Author: Laura82 [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 12:08:49 02/25/25 Tue It's taboo in UK nowadays and even illegal in Wales and Scotland (along with most of Europe) FWIW I Think hitting little kids is not right but with older children for dangerous or dishonest behaviour when nothing else works maybe. But in that case what about adults? I don't mean 18 and 19 which is difficult but what about 30 or 40 or ... What do people think. Part of me thinks of I did something reckless and dangerous and hubby didn't do everything he could to stop me ... [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Is non consenual spanking ever right? Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:54:42 02/25/25 Tue Sailor friends of mine seemed to agree with you, Laura. They were warned by officers that if they took shore leave in South Africa, they were subject to the laws of SA. They were explicitly reminded that the law assign two lashes for public drunkenness and that the US Shore Patrol either could not or would not get them off. I asked them if they went ashore! They claimed they did but I don;t think any of them pushed their luck. So, Laura82 maybe had you been in the US Navy long ago, you could have tested your theory! I don't know if the lashes were with a whip or with a judicial cane. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is non consenual spanking ever right? Author: Dana [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:59:43 02/25/25 Tue In the romance of spanking, the one being punished against their will ultimately accepts what has happened to them as romantic so, for all intents and purposes, it becomes consensual. How does the law accommodate non-consensual spanking? Does it allow a spanking because the one doing it is stronger than the one getting spanked? Can the spankee defend themselves and, if so, how? Can the spankee get revenge on the one who assaulted them? Who gets to spank? Can it be some crazed lunatic off the street? Must it be justified in some way? Would there be thousands of cases in court where a judge or jury must decide if a spanking was appropriate and, if not, what decides the compensation and penalty? A caring husband who spanks his wife in order to protect her in some way can be a beautiful thing, but she must be okay with that. If she doesn't feel the romance, it could damage the marriage, and the husband if she decides to bring charges. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is non consenual spanking ever right? Author: Laura82 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:39:35 02/28/25 Fri I live in England where smacking children within reason is legal but hitting other adults has been illegal since the 1940s. It doesn't mean it doesn't happen though. Consensual relationships are fine but I don't know how I'd feel if I persisted in doing something dangerous and hubby did nothing. It's never happened so who knows. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Is non consenual spanking ever right? Author: Dana [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:22:08 02/28/25 Fri Making something illegal has never stopped it from ever happening. The problem for a caring and conscientious husband is not as much the legality as what is best for his wife. Am I correct in saying that you would feel neglected if your husband did not give you a spanking? If he knows that, then he has your consent. Without knowing, then spanking an adult is not how most adults confront a problem. He could easily make things worse by spanking his wife. The consent part is critical, but if it's not an explicit condition that you've agreed to, then it relies on luck and compatibility. After the fact, he discovers that it worked. He acted not with informed reason, but out of passion, and that is very good for some women, very bad for others. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Is non consenual spanking ever right? Author: Laura82 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:05:11 03/01/25 Sat Hi Dana, I suppose my feelings are mixed. I hated being being spanked as a child but felt that dad only did it because he cared. I think he was wrong sometimes but I truly believe he always believed he was doing what was bets for me (or my brothers) I only realised that there was another side to being spanked when I was older and hubby and I have played our share of games, and I've suggested he spanked me a few time when I felt guilty. It's always been at least semi consensual but I wonder sometimes if I did something really dangerous and he didn't do everything he could to protect me. As I said its never happened and I dont know how I'd react. Sulk probably. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Is non consenual spanking ever right? Author: Dana [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:12:07 03/02/25 Sun Hi Laura. Of course, I can't know how your husband thinks, but it sounds like he should have a good idea when a non-playful spanking would be the right thing to do. Making spanking an adult game is often fueled by at least an underlying connection to the real thing used for punishment, and you've even suggested that to him. Many adults work this all out in advance, so if you did something really dangerous, having it result in punishment would be no surprise. However, I think in your case, there may be enough of the idea established. You might react the same way you did with your dad, and from the same basic feelings of being cared for, but not happy about the spanking. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is non consenual spanking ever right? Author: JenniAnn [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 03:18:06 02/26/25 Wed I live in Europe since many years and spanking is forbidden in most countries here if not all. In my own opinion, spanking children is never ok and this is completely based on my on experience of a spanked child (I know other experienced spankings differently). For adults, I also think non consensual spankings are never ok but it is perhaps not straight forward what is consensual. In a domestic discipline relationship, like myself, a woman may have agreed to be disciplined if misbehaving but at the time she will be spanked she may protest (like I do, I don't want to get a punishment spanking at the moment it will happen but I have consented earlier that if I misbehave, my husband will take me over his knees). In this case I clearly mean that as she agreed to be domestically disciplined then she can get spanked even if she doesn't want to at that moment. For any other case I don't think non-consensual spanking is right at all. This is my view. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is non consenual spanking ever right? Author: Observer [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:44:41 02/26/25 Wed Well spoken. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]