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Subject: Puffy eyes Author: Karin_ven [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 02:08:43 03/02/25 Sun Just before you leave the house you got a serious spanking, as a teenager. Think about friends or family coming to visit, or you go on a date, or to training or church etc. And people ask if your okay, your eyes are puffy or teary, a little bit pale around your nose. And not to forget, your bottom really hurts? Did you deny everything, was it embarrassing? Was it obvious you got a spanking? Did your parents explained what happened [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Lexiewheeler [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:56:49 03/05/25 Wed Getting a spanking and then having to be around people was the worst. So embarrassing. I always felt like everyone knew lol but in my case they usually did. I grew up on a farm and we had cowboys that helped out during the week and I would occasionally get the belt in the barn from my dad and I always hated having to be around them or anyone else that heard it happen. I always thought wow they know I got spanked and they know my butt probably still hurts [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Karin_ven [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:49:25 03/06/25 Thu I can imagine how you must have field. The strange thing about spankings is that we have no saying in it and yet we are embarrassed about it. Our parents decide that spankings is a good punishment and we are embarrassed by it. Until what age where you in for it? Was it always in the barn ? We where always spanked after diner in the kitchen. At one time I was about to get it a neibour walked in. Mom was sitting on a chair hairbrush in her hand and I stood in front of her. It was very clear what was gonna happen. She apologised and said I come back later and she was gone. An hour later I had to go and get some groceries for mom and I ran into her. She looked at me and said “ I can see your mom did her best “ I had puffy eyes and wanted to disappear in the ground. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Louise Vancisic Vancisic [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:42:05 03/06/25 Thu Hi Karin. My best friend growing up was a Karen. She and my other close friend Emily were the only ones who knew that I was still getting spanked at age 14. Spanking became rare when I was 15 and ended by the time I turned 16. But until then it was always skirt up and sometimes panties down. The worst was getting spanked just before school. It happened at church one or twice. My parents did not tell anyone who already didn't know. Did you get spanked bare or over your panties? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Karin_ven to Louise [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 23:19:06 03/06/25 Thu We live inBelgium where spankings are forbidden but also a big taboo. It’s seen as child abuse, even when I was a teenager which is in the 80’ and 90’. My mom believed spanking was a good way to punish, it wasn’t the only way to discipline but it happened very regulair until I left home. Spankings where after diner in the kitchen. After everything was clean and dishes where done she would get the brush and sit down to cal me over. Jeans and underwear where taken down during the lecture to just above me knees. So yes I always got it on the bare. She had her ways to let us know that a spanking was given after diner. We made shore nobody would be in the house. How did you get your spankings ? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Louise Vancisic Vancisic [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:09:15 03/14/25 Fri Hi Karin, My parents most often “corrected” me by spanking. Depending on the “offense” they would use hand, hairbrush or strap. Depending on the method, the number of strokes would vary. Mom administered most of the spankings though when I got the strap it was usually from my father. I believe that the number of smacks was somewhat predetermined but not necessarily held to. Mom was more prone to draw out a spanking so while five to ten minutes across her lap was fairly typical, the actual number of swats, even by hand, rarely exceeded forty. I was what you would call a good girl. If my parents only spanked me for disobedience, I wouldn’t have done too badly. But, they saw spanking as a way to modify all kinds of behavior including performance of chores and performance in school. If I got in trouble in school, no matter how minor the infraction, I would be spanked at home. My teachers soon found out that the mere threat of sending me home with a note brought about my instant compliance. Understandably there were not many such incidents. Report card time, however, was a different story. My parents demanded ‘A’s. If I brought home more than one “curved letter” grade, it would be evidence of “laziness” and I’d get a spanking. I will confess that it motivated me to achieve excellence. I was spanked either on my bare bottom or over my panties. If bare, it was always Mom and always in private. Thank heaven for small things. However, there were fewer compunctions about pulling up my skirt in the presence of other close family, including my brother. He got his beatings from Dad, but they were always private affairs. Perhaps the punishment I feared most was getting spanked in the morning before school. Needless to say, I was extra careful in the morning and made any confessions the evening before. Still, I couldn’t totally avoid those instances where I left the house still crying. Your thoughts? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Jan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:56:59 03/07/25 Fri I am spanked by mu boyfriend I do get puffy eyes if asked I saw allergies most of our friends and both sets of parents know it because I had been spanked but people outside our city of friends and family do not need to know [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Alfred22 for Jan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 22:32:20 03/07/25 Fri Thank you, Jan. It might even be more awkward for an adult to explain what I am calling "spanking symptoms!" Appeal to allergies does explain many of the symptoms. Doesn't really account for sitting gingerly, however. One could claim that the allergic reaction includes a headache! Or perhaps just say that you ache and let your audience worry about where you ache! Best wishes for your wedding. Weddings are a big deal. Tell us about it here and we can wish you well and all the spankings that your bottom can enjoy! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Jan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:07:02 03/08/25 Sat It is pretty much planted a simple poolside wedding I will wear a bikini at my future in-laws house only close family and close friends the attire is swimsuits it is the second Saturday in June we could move it for weather my bridesmaids have agreed to wear the bikinis I have picked as my mother and future mother in law we will have a jazz band we both love jazz the men will wear swim trunks we are keeping it simple no stress and not worry about having a lot of people [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:51:26 03/08/25 Sat Sounds like a really fun wedding. I would caution you to use a Wedding Planner just to remind you of all the little details that need attending to at even the simplest of weddings. They usually charge but to ensure that everything really works, that no one forgets crucial items like the rings or a text that you want to have a reading from. Are you going to promise to "... obey ... ?" Who is leading the ceremony? Be sure that person knows what you want to do with the promise to obey, whatever it is. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Jan to Alfred [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:36:01 03/14/25 Fri Yes we are doing the promise to obey our pastor is going to perform and he knows already we will move the ceremony inside of it is a rainy day Out honey moon will be a cross country road trip we both like road trips [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Alfred22 for Karin_ven [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:39:04 03/07/25 Fri What do kids in the EU or other countries where spanking is officially banned say when asked about their sitting gingerly or their puffy eyes or other obvious signs/symptoms of having been spanked recently? It can't be easy for them, especially if they got a good one that they are still feeling the tingling and smart from. But lying is awkward and will be hard to pull off convincingly. So, what do spanking parents recommend they do? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Jan for Alfred [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:48:21 03/07/25 Fri Adults who get consensual spankings like me from my boyfriend soon to be husband have a awkward time with strangers who do not understand our chosen lifestyle I feel them I got allergies our close friends and family know and accept so I will say I got a punishment spanking and what for . We also do role playing that is fun too like Tomorrow our day off a school paddling scene [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Karin_ven to Alfred [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:41:58 03/08/25 Sat I never talked to kids that where spanked at home. Nobody opens up about it in my area. Like I said there is a big taboo over it. But offcours when it happens in our family there must be more families that spank. But unlike in your country there is no open structure from school or church that are pro spanking. I know the more northern states don’t agree with it, but still 19 states allow cp in school. When I talk to people online they tell me me it’s much more common then over here, and that its no secret kids get it in school and at home. I must say that I envy you over it. CP is used for centuries all over the world, suddenly its abuse, perhaps I was born to late. Don’t get me wrong I hatet getting spanked, but looking back it was honoust deserved clear . [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Puffy eyes Author: Alfred22 for Karin_ven [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:41:16 03/08/25 Sat Here's an interesting take on why spanking of real kids is spoken about sotto voce or in a low and quiet voice: for consenting adults spanking can be fun and erotic. These adult spankings are almost always controlled by the recipient. I am sure you remember that your parental spankings were NOT in or under your control. You could not say Slow Down or Yellow Light (meaning I am getting close to my hard limit). The world has now discovered that spanking has this dimension. The effects of this discovery are complicated but it has made parental spanking of real children seem too similar to adult fun spankings. Reality Check: Punishment spankings work for any age. But I have known only a few adults who felt so sure of their parenting skills that they could distinguish when someone truly needed and would benefit from a spanking. AND that they could defend giving that person the spanking as the best parenting they could offer. Most parents who are aware of adult DD with spanking lack the confidence in their own judgment and so to play it safe, they avoid ALL spankings of persons, including persons in their own families. I think this is an over-reaction. For some kids, it is no favor to ground them and spoil what may be some of the best weekends of their lives. A moderate or safe or tolerable spanking that carries a clear message is likely to be a better choice for many, even one they themselves would endorse. I suspect but probably can't prove that the truly liberated and modern parent could be up-front about all the aspects of spanking including its fantasy uses for masturbation AND still use it to emphasize parental disapproval of inappropriate behavior. As some evidence in favor of my view I would cite several articulate posters on this very forum! Many here spank, generally infrequently, but I am sure no one here is at all guilty of spanking for their own pleasure. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]