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Subject: Re: Why are girls spanked older Author: Jeff D [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 15:40:39 04/12/25 Sat In reply to: Laura82 's message, "Why are girls spanked older" on 12:10:57 04/12/25 Sat Hi Laura, I experienced much the same thing growing up. My sisters and I were all born in the 70's and most of our cousins too. I got my last parental spanking at the age of 10 and it was the same for my male cousins give or take a couple years. But in those younger years I probably got around three spankings for every one that my sisters received. However my sisters continued getting spankings long after mine stopped. From about 13 to 17 they seemed to get a spanking every two to three months. Sometimes more often, sometimes less. This pattern was the same with our cousins. Many years ago this conversation came up during a family reunion. The overall consensus was that the typical boy engages in much more problematic behaviors when younger compared to girls of the same age. Things like fighting, breaking stuff, and outright disobedience. On the flip side, the typical girl becomes more of a problem as a teenager. Issues like disobedience- often in the form of a negative attitude, backtalk, or word games / technicalities- testing boundaries from acceptable outfits to missing curfew with incredulous excuses and selfish or rude behaviors that leave everyone else in the household irritated- such as hogging the bathroom, using all the hot water, constantly being on the phone (much more of an issue in the pre-cellphone era of landlines) and not doing their chores or doing them so poorly they've made more work. I was definitely not a perfectly behaved teenager myself, but with two sisters close to me in age causing our parents more trouble, I came off looking like an angel. I know this is a lot of stereotyping, but the stereotypes exist for a reason and while there are plenty of exceptions, there are also a lot of people who fall right in line with them. I also think things have changed or are changing for many because I didn't have anywhere near the trouble with my daughters when they were teens. But I also didn't try to control them as much. Which I think is the more unspoken part of this; parents have often been more strict and controlling with their teenager daughters as compared to their sons. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> Subject: Re: Why are girls spanked older Author: Stelter [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:20:44 04/13/25 Sun Jeff, Laura, For me too (growing up in Germany in the 60s and 70s), my experiences coincide with yours. Boys were spanked much more often than girls at pre-school/primary school age, but then it was usually over by the age of 10 or 11, or at the latest at confirmation, as it was for me (around 14). My sister, my female cousins and some girls from school, on the other hand, often felt the punishing hand of their parents on their bottoms until they were 16 or sometimes even 18. In addition to everything that has already been rightly described here, I believe that it is primarily related to the gender role that was expected of children at the time. While the son's rebelliousness in the teenage years was seen as an exercise for life (the boy should not become a wimp), girls were primarily expected to behave well and be obedient. They were expected to learn to become loving, caring wives and mothers and not to disgrace their families. And until well into the 80s and 90s, parents tried to achieve this with the cane if they thought it was appropriate. In Germany, all corporal punishment of children has been banned since 2000. In this respect, I cannot say what the situation is today. Because if children are actually still being chastised today, nobody talks about it anymore. Kind regards - Stelter [ Post a Reply to This Message ]