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>Something kind of unusual happened somewhat recently >with my daughter. She often wears jeans, but this time >in addition to her jeans she was wearing a white >“wifebeater” style tank top, which is pretty >unusual. As a 16 year-old girl, that’s not really >normal for her to wear, but it doesn’t matter to me. > >However, she was wanting to be spanked that day. She >also specifically requested that I use a belt. OK, >that’s not a problem for me. I told her to get >herself ready for her spanking. Well, when she started >taking her jeans off, I noticed that she wasn’t >wearing the type of underwear she normally does. >I’ve seen her in briefs, thongs, and boyshorts >before, but this was new. She was wearing boxers. Like >men’s style plaid boxers. > >That’s not a problem with me either. She can wear >whatever type of underwear she wants, but it was an >odd choice for her. Of course, this was a spanking not >a fashion show, so those boxers soon came off as well. > >I had her bend over the arm of the couch and then I >proceeded to give her a good spanking with the belt. I >noticed she was less vocally reactive than normal, >like she was trying to take her spanking stoically. >That’s also fine with me. I watch her body language >closely to determine when to end a spanking. I don’t >go by vocal reactions since that can be very >misleading. > >After I spanked her and put her in the corner for a >bit, I told her she could lie facedown on the couch >and I would rub her butt for her. She just said “no >thanks” and began putting her boxers back on. Once >she was fully dressed, I told her I wanted to discuss >what just happened. > >I couldn’t help but notice that her clothing was >much more “masculine” than normal. It looked like >she was about to go change the oil in her car after >this. I don’t want to get too political, but one >reason I think we are seeing more young people >identifying as transgender is not because they >actually have medical dysphoria but rather because >they simply don’t identify with traditional gender >roles. Hell, “non-binary” is such a broad category >that it could apply to anyone who doesn’t align with >1950’s stereotypes about gender. > >For my daughter, I have never really cared about >enforcing societal standards of femininity on her. She >has just always been naturally inclined to be >feminine. But had she wanted to play with Hot Wheels >instead of Barbie dolls when she was little, I >wouldn’t have minded that at all. > >I understand that categorizations on what traits are >masculine or feminine are arbitrary and culturally >defined. For example, why is the color blue associated >with boys while the color pink is associated with >girls? Or why do men have short hair and women have >long hair? There is no objective scientific reason for >this. > >These are just things that our culture decided. Other >cultures may do things differently. But logically >speaking, liking pink doesn’t make one less of a >man, and wearing boxers doesn’t make one less of a >woman. I don’t think the definition of “man” and >“woman” should depend on adherence to arbitrary >social norms. > >As for my daughter, I certainly don’t ever want to >encourage her to “identify” as something she >isn’t. Having just seen her with her underwear off, >I can obviously confirm that she is definitely female. >However, I do think she should be free to explore >interests that aren’t traditionally feminine if she >wants. > >So getting back to my discussion with her, I asked her >if there was any particular reason she wanted to wear >boxers. I buy her clothing for her. And I didn’t buy >her boxers so she must have bought them with her own >money. > >I would support her no matter what decisions she made >about her identity, but I have to admit that I was so >relieved when she told me that the boxers and >masculine getup were just a role-playing thing for >her. She explained that she had watched a lot of movie >clips online with spanking scenes in them. Apparently >it’s common for spankos to look for references to >spanking everywhere. She’s told me before that she >even used to look it up in the dictionary for some >reason. > >Anyway, apparently a lot of older movies with >spankings in them were of boys, and the scene of a boy >being spanked with his father’s belt was something >she wanted to role play. She said she didn’t tell me >about it because I already know how to play the part >of her father. She assured me that she definitely >identifies as a girl but that it can be fun for her to >role play. Again, I would support her no matter what, >but that was still a relief to hear. > >She also said she had declined the usual post-spanking >butt rub because she was playing the part of being >“tough” but admitted she would actually like to >take me up on that offer if it was still on the table, >which it was.

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