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Subject: Re: Checking back in

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James to Zixi (Rosie)
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Date Posted: 07:10:39 05/16/24 Thu
In reply to: Zixi (Rosie) 's message, "Checking back in" on 05:14:38 05/16/24 Thu

Hi Zixi (Rosie) - glad you are okay. I noticed you said you could not understand why your host Dad was so keen to exert his authority...but I am not sure the facts support that.

IF he was so keen to exert his authority you would have been cutting a switch two days ago?

(1) He had your parents' approval. (2) He had reason enough. IF he had wanted to spank the 'rich and spoiled Chinese girl' ....then it makes no real sense for him to DECLINE to do that.

So, yes, I think it's partly just a vibe you are getting. As for being 'culturally aware' - he knows, you know, and I know, that would have been rude in a similar Chinese context. If his daughter was in China and she didn't give a slight bow to an elder, that is a lack of cultural awareness.

I would say the context of what is happening here is that he is trying to actually be fair and restrained while being mindful of the rules in place for his wife and daughter.

>Sorry I couldn’t post-you’ll see why
>
>I had my “chat” with my host dad. It was extremely
>scary. He basically talked about the importance of
>respect for the Pastor and how embarrassing what I had
>done was for the family. He said, quite frankly, that
>I deserved a good bare-bottom spanking for it, but
>that he had discussed it with his wife and that they
>were going to give me one more chance, since I
>wasn’t culturally aware of their expectations. I did
>lose my phone for two days and was given a stern
>reminder to not stay glued to it.
>
>He also said that future misbehavior at home or school
>could indeed lead to a spanking for me as my parents
>have signed off on it, and he said if he sees my phone
>at church again he WILL have me cut a switch.
>
>I’m relieved to not have been spanked, but I feel
>like my host dad is itching to give me one— I’m
>not sure it’s just a vibe I get. Maybe he thinks
>I’m rich and spoiled (my family is one of the more
>high-ranking party wise in China) or maybe he just
>wants to get to spank “the Chinese girl.” I’m
>going to try to just steer clear for this next period
>as best I can.

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>Hi Zixi (Rosie) - glad you are okay. I noticed you >said you could not understand why your host Dad was so >keen to exert his authority...but I am not sure the >facts support that. > >IF he was so keen to exert his authority you would >have been cutting a switch two days ago? > >(1) He had your parents' approval. (2) He had reason >enough. IF he had wanted to spank the 'rich and >spoiled Chinese girl' ....then it makes no real sense >for him to DECLINE to do that. > >So, yes, I think it's partly just a vibe you are >getting. As for being 'culturally aware' - he knows, >you know, and I know, that would have been rude in a >similar Chinese context. If his daughter was in China >and she didn't give a slight bow to an elder, that is >a lack of cultural awareness. > >I would say the context of what is happening here is >that he is trying to actually be fair and restrained >while being mindful of the rules in place for his wife >and daughter. > >>Sorry I couldn’t post-you’ll see why >> >>I had my “chat” with my host dad. It was extremely >>scary. He basically talked about the importance of >>respect for the Pastor and how embarrassing what I had >>done was for the family. He said, quite frankly, that >>I deserved a good bare-bottom spanking for it, but >>that he had discussed it with his wife and that they >>were going to give me one more chance, since I >>wasn’t culturally aware of their expectations. I did >>lose my phone for two days and was given a stern >>reminder to not stay glued to it. >> >>He also said that future misbehavior at home or school >>could indeed lead to a spanking for me as my parents >>have signed off on it, and he said if he sees my phone >>at church again he WILL have me cut a switch. >> >>I’m relieved to not have been spanked, but I feel >>like my host dad is itching to give me one— I’m >>not sure it’s just a vibe I get. Maybe he thinks >>I’m rich and spoiled (my family is one of the more >>high-ranking party wise in China) or maybe he just >>wants to get to spank “the Chinese girl.” I’m >>going to try to just steer clear for this next period >>as best I can.

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