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>>The holidays are coming up which means our kid’s >>schedules are going to be busy with holiday parties, >>travel and other activities. This means late nights, >>early morning, lots of sugar and stimulation. I >>don’t need to tell any parents that all this leads >>to temper tantrums, disobedience, and poor behavior. >> >>I’ve written here and on other boards about our >>family’s use of first time obedience (FTO). I >>won’t rehash all the rules but in a nutshell the >>boys are required to say, “yes mommy/daddy” when >>their name is called and immediately come to us. They >>are expected to maintain eye contact and smile while >>being given commands then immediately follow the >>orders with a happy heart. Our 10 year old son has >>been given the privilege to appeal an order because he >>has been FTO for over a year. To appeal he must wait >>until we are done talking then ask, “may I >>appeal?” If we grant permission then he states his >>appeal and we either accept it or not. The 5&7 year >>olds are not allowed to appeal yet. >> >>Here’s an example of how an appeal may work: >>Me: Henry! >>Henry: yes mommy! (He immediately comes to me) >>Me: it’s bedtime. Please get ready for bed and wait >>for me to tuck you in. (He maintains eye contact and >>smiles during this) >>Henry: may I please appeal? >>Me: yes >>Henry: the baseball game on TV is almost over, it’s >>not a school night and I got an A on my math test. May >>I stay up until the end of the game? >>Me: granted but it’s off to bed afterwards. >> >>Pretty simple. Again, the 5&7 year olds are never >>allowed to appeal like that, it’s an earned >>privilege. >> >>Over the last few weeks 10 has been slipping on the >>FTO. Last week my husband and I revoked his privilege >>to appeal. With the chaos of the holidays coming up I >>wanted to put 10&7 through a training session or boot >>camp. >> >>You may be wondering why not 5 too? Why only do the >>training for 10&7? A 5 year old is still at the >>beginning stages of child training and FTO. Everyday >>is a training day for him. We “tomato stake” him >>everyday. >> >>This weekend was a rare weekend. We didn’t have any >>plans; no soccer, Boy Scouts, church functions, family >>gatherings etc. So this weekend was a child training >>weekend. >> >>On Friday, while the boys were at school, I prepared. >>I bought a large box of Huggies Little Movers size 7 >>for the 7 year old, and a large box of Goodnites >>medium for the 10 year. I laid out on the family room >>coffee table a copy of the household rules, a >>hairbrush size plastic paddle, a couple of >>children’s obedience books, tissues, their diapers >>and of course the Bible. In the upstairs kids bathroom >>I prepared an enema and put the toddler seat on the >>toilet (it has handles and a little pee guard in the >>front of the seat for boys). Lastly I arranged with my >>parents for the 5 year old to stay at their place. >> >>When the boys came home from school we sat on the >>couch together and reviewed the rules, read the >>obedience books and a few bible passages, and talked. >>I then undressed 10 and stationed him in the corner. >> >>I took 7 up to the bathroom and undressed him too. I >>administered the enema and had him sit on the toddler >>seat on the toilet. I then went back to the family >>room, sat on the couch and called 10 over. I placed >>him over my lap. I spent about a minute hand spanking >>him. Then 5 minutes with the paddle. He was through >>the roof in pain and his little butt was as red as a >>stop sign. I gave him a break before doing a second 3 >>minute round including hand spanking the thighs. I >>cleaned up his face then put him back in the corner. >> >>I then went back upstairs to check on 7 and was hit by >>the smell when I entered the bathroom. The enema did >>its job! I cleaned him up and took him back to the >>family room. He’s too young and small for the >>plastic paddle, so I just used my hand for several >>minutes. His spanking wasn’t as hard as big >>brother’s because he had the enema and is being DD. >>After I put him in his diaper and placed him in the >>corner. >> >>By this time 10 was finishing his corner time. I >>called him over and put the Goodnite on. I explained >>he doesn’t have to use it but will need to wear and >>ask permission to use the bathroom. I then took him to >>the kitchen for a snack of carrot sticks and milk. >>When 7 was done with his corner time he joined 10 at >>the kitchen table for a snack too, but got a baby >>bottle of milk. >> >>Over the weekend we played obedience games, and did >>chores. They wore only their diapers and white socks. >>They had to ask permission for EVERYTHING and had no >>privacy. Their bedtime was 7 pm. We did little “warm >>ups” here and there. But overall they did great! If >>10 keeps it up then we’ll restore his privilege to >>appeal next week. > >Wow, sounds like that will send a strong impression >across for the coming holiday gatherings. So were they >each spanked and put in huggies/goodnites due to >recent bad behavior or was it more just part of the >overall training session? I bet they looked cute in >just the diapers and socks. Do you think the 7yo was >jealous at all that his older brother didnt have to >wear a proper diaper and could ask to use the bathroom? > >What were some of the obedience games you played like? >I'm guessing no privacy and asking permission meant >you did their baths and the older one had to be >supervised in the bathroom. But was it other things >too, like eating dinner or playing with toys? > >I assume your parents know all about the discipline >and obedience training and are supportive. Did the 5yo >really understand or question why he wasnt with his >brothers the past weekend?

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