Re: How do I get started? -- Diaper and punishment for children and teens

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Date Posted: 11:57:36 07/22/25 Tue
Author: Marc DeGuzman
Subject: Re: How do I get started?
In reply to: LionTamer 's message, "Re: How do I get started?" on 11:35:28 07/20/25 Sun

I think in your situation I would make notes of every infraction the 9 year old makes across the day, then at bedtime while it's calm do the first spanking, nice and easy, PJs down. Use your hand only at first, but you have to continue until the dramatics die down, when he's quiet, then explain everything he has done over the day that this punishment is for. keep it up, You will know when to stop, don't doubt yourself and stop too early.

As for privacy, you need to ask yourself where it's needed, you'll find that at home neither child needs much. Boundaries are barriers for behaviour. A 10 year old does not need to close bedroom doors, lock bathroom doors and so on.

Take the boys cellphones if they have them so they can't contact their mother while they are angry. Then reintroduce but monitor what they message. Encourage nice words like happy and enjoyment, avoid negative words.

Is the next visit the 3 week block?

>Thank you, I will start doing this on their next
>visit. Unfortunately the last time they were here I
>lost my temper and shouted, it did very little to help
>the situation long term.
>So you think the older one should be spanked first?
>
>I'm not sure how much privacy is too much, I think
>it's a pretty standard set up, obviously the 7 year
>old is supervised in the bathtub.
>
>>Get your husband on board with this, start with the
>>older boy to set an example. At the first sign of
>>disobedience or behaviour you don't like punish it.
>>The first time you spank it will shock him but he will
>>learn.
>>
>>You say you have 3 weeks, you will want to do this as
>>much as possible early on and ease off as he gets
>>nearer to going his mom. How much custody do you have,
>>are we talking only weekends, because this type of
>>behaviour modification isn't suited for short term
>>care.
>>
>>Are you giving them too much privacy?

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Re: How do I get started? -- Maya, 11:46:41 07/23/25 Wed