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Date Posted: 10:46:21 12/28/25 Sun
Author: Lion-Tamer
Subject: Re: How do I get started?
In reply to: Marc 's message, "Re: How do I get started?" on 10:30:16 12/11/25 Thu

Thank you for the explanation, I have started this, days they have been with us have been a bit patchy but now we have them for a long block, 26th to the 9th. I've started slow as you advised, the focus has been on the 7 year old just pull-ups for bed after the nightly bath so far. I got him onesie PJs for Christmas, so when he's ready for the next step we can start using them. No wet pull-ups, which is pretty much what I expected as he hasn't bedwet before, but no protests when I put them on.

Both boys have reached a point where they let me wipe them, the 7 year old will whisper to me that he has to poop, it's very cute. The 10 year old is more secretive, I have to watch for the signs of him sneaking off upstairs then follow.

Does this sound like we are on the right lines, how long until I should add the sleeper to the bedtime routine, is there signs I should look for that he's ready for the next stage? I know after that for a while I should assist with the toilet trips but is there a specific point I should step back?

Social services have visited and looked at our situation, they are not currently taking things further, we didn't deny we spank, they didn't seem too concerned with the living situation.
Thanks In advance


>I agree with Anne I do think you need a more nurturing
>approach to the younger child. The kids are at
>different stages and the older one seems to be the
>instigator from.the information you have given.
>Continue as you are with the 10 year old.
>
>With the younger boy I would start with pull-ups at
>night. its a new rule, explain you have new sheets and
>would like him to wear it just in case To protect
>them.
>I don't know how often you have custody but the first
>step is drilling into him the routine, bath time,
>followed by pull-ups.
>
>He won't use them at first and that's okay. It's just
>gently getting him compliant, pull-ups "just in case".
>
>Then invest in a sleeper, one he will find difficult
>to remove, the goal is to have him need to come and
>tell you when he has to "go potty". It will mean for a
>few nights before he goes to bed and in the night
>you'll be woken to take him. Then you can start having
>him wait until you are "not busy" to take him. Tell
>him to wait until morning if you are woken at night.
>At this point you can switch from pull-ups to diapers
>and extend the amount of time he is in the sleeper, a
>few hours before bed and after he wakes up.
>
>Very slow.

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