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Subject: Why Don't These Clues Work?

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Dennis S. Vogel

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Date Posted: 00:06:40 06/01/12 Fri
In reply to: Clouseau 's message, "What do These Clue mean?" on 21:14:30 01/21/12 Sat

Why do some clues not work in similar situations?
In the US Navy, I often heard, "If it has more than one moving part, it isn't sailor proof."

Some clues may be relevant to multiple people in similar conditions, but clues aren't people proof. People make choices on conscious & subconscious levels. Each choice has consequences. A possible consequence is: People don't get the same results as others got with the same clues.
This post is an example of what some clues are & can hopefully help people recognize some clues in/for themselves & others. It applies to personal well-being & business success.

To be congruent & get consistently positive results, conscious & subconscious decisions must be the same. Remember (this isn't just a pun or joke), a subconscious has a mind of its own.

You may need help from Tame Your Brain! (tameyourbrain.com/) web site of Jan Tincher, hypnotherapist & master neuro-linguistic programmer. (I'm not, nor have I ever been Jan's affliate. I don't get paid anything for referring you to Jan.) She helped me years ago. Just don't blame Jan for what I've become because my subconscious & I make/made decisions that have become my reality.

Is This "Clue" Really A Clue For You In Your Unique Life?

A major part of this aspect of clues is: What has changed recently? Was it a necessary change? Was it necessary to have done it already or would some time in the future have been better? (Maybe other resources would've been available in the future.) What should've changed but hasn't? Has the change, at least, been started? If so, has progress been significant? Has progress been difficult or easy? Why?
Why hasn't it happened successfully like other activities?

If the necessary change hasn't been started (plan hasn't been implemented), will the results be less than necessary?

If the necessary change has been started (plan being implemented) but progress is too slow, why has it been slow? Why have the results been slower than expected?

Now we've gotten to something we all need to maintain (for the most part), yet too often we need to disrupt it or destroy it.

Homeostasis: Our need to have some normalcy. Comfort Zone: What feels familiar. Since it feels familiar, it seems safer than what's unknown.

Without homeostasis, we probably wouldn't/couldn't make any significant progress because too many things would change too often & too drastically.
In effect without homeostasis there'd few, if any, modules. Many things (or maybe all) would be an interdependencies.
(These posts have information about modules & interdependencies: Reaching A Technological Frontier Entails Breaking Rules Part 1 -&-
Reaching A Technological Frontier Entails Breaking Rules Part 2)

Though modules tend to be stable, it's just a matter of comparison. Modules are more stable than interdependencies, at least until current interdependencies become modular. But outdated or misused modules are apt to be less stable than we need them to be. Plus, a module that's stable in a situation could be unstable in another.

Do You Call That Balance?

Somebody's homeostatic "balance" may've been intact for years, but that doesn't mean it's modular. Even if it's stable enough to be modular, it won't automatically be compatible with an interdependency. Some drug addicts survive for years despite being unstable. To recover, they need a major homeostatic shift. While they go through withdrawal, they'll probably be more unstable. They may've seemed somewhat or very unbalanced before, but they didn't fall because they didn't reach their personal tipping point. Often, it's necessary to let addicts "hit bottom", at that point, they should realize they can't dig any further down & still survive.

Things can have barely stable homeostatic balances. When repairs are done on some buildings, carpenters need to be sure everything that requires support has enough support. Working on a wall could cause a ceiling to cave in.

Using terms like homeostasis, module & interdependency together is an analogy to help us understand how to link these concepts to create better experiences. You don't have to literally do exactly what's in the analogy. I'm using it as a frame of reference, not an exact template.

To make a lasting, positive change (lasting meaning until another change is necessary), we should determine if our current homeostatic condition is stable enough to be modular.

Depending on the situation & its importance/urgency, making potential changes can be like climbing a ladder. Having both hands & at least one foot or both feet & at least one hand on the rungs, we can climb up or down safely (when we & the ladder are stable enough).

Stephen R. Covey advises determining what the main or 1st things are in our lives & be sure they get the attention those high priorities should have. (Keep 1st things 1st.) Of the 4 quadrants he often refers to (in 7 Habits of Highly Successful People), Quadrant 1 is the category for things that are urgent & important. Symbolically, those things may be burning because they weren't handled correctly or were neglected while they were in Quadrant 2 (category for important, but not urgent). Quadrant 2 is where our 1st things (people & tasks important enough to warrant consistent attention & work when necessary) should be.

By dedicating enough resources & substantially investing ourselves in our 1st things, we should be able to keep them in Quad 2. It's worth the effort because we'll have less stress that way, so we can be more productive.

Unfortunately, those 1st things often start burning in Quad 1 because they've become urgent. It's then we take notice & we determine to do what's necessary to save the situation. Yet, keeping things in Quad 2 should be enough to keep our attention on them.

Yet, if those are important enough to be our 1st things, why don't we prevent those fires?

We get caught up in things that may be urgent & important to others (their Quad 1 but for us it's Quadrant 3), but we can't afford to focus on those because for us, those are lower in priority. Since those things are urgent or seem urgent to somebody, they may seem important to us. Helping others is important, maybe important enough to be in our Quad 2. But trying to put too many things in Quad 2 isn't sustainable.

If we claim 10 things are our #1 priority, we're fooling ourselves. We can only have one #1 priority. If everything is our highest priority, then realistically, we don't have any priorities.

We need to be realistic & determine: If some things aren't inspiring enough for us to maintain & change them when necessary, are those things really our 1st things? Maybe those should be our real 1st things, but our actions (lack of action) indicate they aren't 1st things. If so, we should change our priority list to reflect our reality. If something is actually among our 1st things, we'd better change what we do, how we do them & how often/when we do them. We may have hot fires to put out, unless it's too late already. Sometimes, we end up letting fires burn until the fuel &/or oxygen is gone.

Don't cop out & automatically figure it's too late or not worthwhile. Do some sincere due diligence & set realistic priorities so you don't cheat yourself & others.

Are you doing the right things? Or are you just struggling to do things right? You can do the wrong things effectively & efficiently & waste resources, without achieving anything worthwhile, so please be careful.

Dennis S. Vogel
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