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Date Posted: 14:43:03 04/21/05 Thu
Author: Nick T.
Subject: how the ubfKoreans married their daughters
In reply to: No prizes given for guessing who 's message, "Marriage by Faith" on 02:16:54 04/21/05 Thu

Hi No prizes,

I was very long time ubf member in Chicago, and witnessed a number of 2nd gen marriages. The details of how they decided which ubfKorean kids would marry who was kept in total secret from the ubfAmericans.

After getting out of the ubf, I heard a story from a ubfKorean. The ubfKorean said that EE Chang Woo appointed Charles Kim as part of the arranged marriage process. Chuckie would go to the home of the target father and say in code something like "Oh, Dr. Sammule Lee is praying for your daughter to marry!" Then the responses from the ubfKorean were very anxious such as 'Who could she marry? Is Dr. Lee praying for my daughter to marry a medical doctor? I better give Dr. Lee a cash bonus so that when he prays he will be inspired to marry my daughter to a doctor.' That was the natural anxiety that attacked the father. And the father did not have any say in who his daughter could marry, his only hope was to give enough cold cash to EE Chang Woo to assure his daughter could marry someone who was not a mental patient or whatever. EE Chang Woo was a vindicative and greedy man. When he demanded money, he did not like to be rebuffed.

And I think this perfectly describes what EE Chang Woo did in terms of arranging marriage for 2nd gen ubfKoreans. The father I spoke to was highly offended by Chuckie Kim's tatics and did not offer any cash bonus. He said it was tantamount to selling his daughter. The lady in question eventually dumped the ubf and married on her own, very happily.

Does anyone else know any of the secretive process of how ubfKoreans married off their children?

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Re: how the ubfKoreans married their daughters -- PECAS, 11:39:41 04/22/05 Fri
- Re: how the ubfKoreans married their daughters -- Joe, 12:13:18 04/22/05 Fri