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Subject: Our 16 yr. old stool withholder

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Shelly

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Date Posted: Tuesday, March 11, 2025, 07:12: pm

Hey all,

I didn't want to jinx myself by coming on here to say things are going so well with toileting with the three children in our house. But I just can't stand it. I want to rejoice a little! If there is still a problem child it is our boarded 16 yr. old that is not our child but lives here during school week because they live way out of town. I'm not going to rehash how she came to live with us during school and how I found out she withholds and that if I didn't correct her she was not going to get the help she needed to stop. Check the archives. The charming, sweet, talkative, funny young lady I first met a few years ago when she started to babysit for us has returned. What a remarkable young gal! That is until it is time to give me a bowel movement. Then she tenses up, clams up, and gets a little stressed visibly. She will not talk about bowel movements with me. She says it is too upsetting to talk to me face to face (I'm summarizing). So I asked her to compose a letter on the computer for me. I asked her to talk about the things that upset her the most about my intervention. About her enema clean outs. About my requiring a bowel movement daily. Just the number one thing that upsets her about her toileting. Again in summarizing, it boils down to she is afraid of her own bowel movements. She hates her body that it makes her poop. She is disgusted at having to look at her poop. She wishes she never ever had to poop again. She does not hate me that I give her enemas to clean her out or to get a daily bowel movement. She only hates the enemas because they force her on the toilet to poop. Where have I heard that before Kitten Paw? She couldn't make herself thank me for stopping her holding and smearing her panties but said her life is so much better now because she feels so good and doesn't have accidents or issues at school. I am so heartened by all that she admitted. And I feel that she will come to accept that pooping is a very normal and healthy thing for her as I continue to keep her emptying her rectum and then cleaning her out on Sunday's. She comes late on Sunday evenings so is not here for our oldest boy's bath and enema but she likes to bathe and give our youngest his Wed. evening enema. So things are going to well and I just wanted to share. Thanks to all of you who guided and supported us to get here. And even those silent readers who just let me come on and vent or trouble shoot. You helped me to find the right path forward.

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[> Subject: Re: Our 16 yr. old stool withholder

Author:
AV
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Date Posted: Wednesday, March 12, 2025, 03:42: am

Shelly,
Thank you for the update.
I will be the first to say I am so proud of you.
You even have come a long way.
You were so nerve starting to weekly enema your oldest at the beginning.
Then you decided to start your youngest.
What a battle it has been.
But you stayed faithful and determined.
Then, one day, a wish came true for you.
Giving your sitter enemas.
Shocked to find out she was a holder.
Oh my! What an uphill battle that has been.
But now . . . You have come a long way.
The children have come a long way!
Proud supporter here!

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[> [> Subject: Re: Our 16 yr. old stool withholder

Author:
Maude
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Date Posted: Wednesday, March 12, 2025, 06:19: am

Blessed that you are able to stop her withholding Shelly. Growing up in an enema family in the 50s and 60s if any of us children were caught looking like a plank with legs locked and face turning red trying to hold back a stool we were put on the JBL pronto. It is not just a failure of this girl's mom but of our whole society's neglect of our children's bowel habits these days that creates these teenage stool withholders. And there are possibly millions of them today. In my generation each and every one of them would have known the enema pillow or bag very well long before they became teenagers. I read that you have her over your leg as you need to lube her with applicator for a colon nozzle you insert into her sigmoid section. Good for you for getting the enema started past her rectum as it makes it much more comfortable for her to take the large soapsuds enema she needs to clean her out. She is on the right path. Keep it up. Hugs.

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[> Subject: Re: Our 16 yr. old stool withholder

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Kitten Paw
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Date Posted: Wednesday, March 12, 2025, 07:18: pm

Hey Shelly, Just sitting here anticipating the enema I've been told I'm getting after dinner tonight. I haven't had an enema since my side effects stopped from my cervix birth control ring stopped. Mom has decided to just keep me on the control because I have some boys I'm talking to and hanging out with after school sometimes for an hour or two. She takes the ring out tonight to force my period. So now she at times controls my bowel movements and she has total control of my periods. I know how your babysitter feels about being forced on the toilet to give you a bowel movement. I have always said that is the worst part of an enema. I'm sure RB would agree. We don't like giving you the mom our bowel movements. We don't like sharing that. You didn't either when your step mom put you on the toilet chair beside your bed and you are giving her bowel movements form the enema she put in you. But that is our life because you are enema moms and we just have to try to deal with it. I deal with it. I'm not okay with it but I deal with it. Sitter will get better at dealing with it.

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