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Marriage and Divorce in Islam

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Iman

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Date Posted: 21:42:34 08/05/02 Mon
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Asalamu Alakum,
My husband and I have been married for almost 7yrs. We were in love when we married. I guess you could say that we knew when we met that this marriage is meant to be. Then he asked for my hand in marriage for my family. We were so happy. Allah did not bless us with children yet. My husband says since the delay is from me that Allah did not bless me. I don�t agree with him only because we are one and what effects me effects him. I started to notice that my husband was depressed and always unhappy so I asked him and he told me he wanted to marry another wife. At first I went mad, to think that the love of my life is thinking of another, for me to share my husband with another woman��.. No that will not work for me. Than I thought it through very thoroughly and said ok to the matter. I now that my husband only thought about one part of this and that is having a child. I felt that even though I accepted this situation to the best of my abilities his treatment towards me started to change. We argued about the smallest things anyway one thing lead to another and he declared me divorced (TALIQ). That maid me so angry at him but I still want ed him back. My family got involved and we got back together. Now he did it again (TALIQ). What do I do? Please help me in this matter I am in so much pain because I still love my husband deeply but feel that what he did was uncalled for. What do I do?
Please send me any answers and any numbers or names of any one that can help me.

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[> Subject: Re: Marriage and Divorce in Islam

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Laila nasheeba
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Date Posted: 23:12:59 08/05/02 Mon
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As Salaamu Alaikoum,

Praise be to Allah.

Allah says, "A divorce is only permissable twice, after that the parties should either hold together on good terms or separate with kindness..." [Quran 2:228]

Unfortunately the law is the law and it doesnt matter how much you say you love someone. Since your husband has declared divorce on you for the second time, there is no other chance. If he declares it on you again then you and he will be divorced and he will not be able to take you back until you marry another man and have sex with him:

"So if a husband divorces his wife irrevocably, he cannot after that remarry her until after she has married another man and he has divorced her..." [Quran 2:230]

We suggest you talk to your husband and let him understand that divorce is not a play thing and he can not undo it when it is done. You two need to control your anger and emotions and try to live together in harmony and keep the Shaytaan from interferring in your home.

AND ALLAH KNOWS BEST

Laila Nasheeba