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Subject: Problem Marriage

Author:
Munira

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Date Posted: 19:13:34 05/31/02 Fri
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Bis-millaahir RaHmaanir RaHeem

I am currently pregnant with my first baby and I am concerned about how he/she will be raised. My husband is a generous, good man but he has numerous bad habits that he is not willing to give up. He is impatient and expects marital problems to be solved within the time span of him arguing about it. He curses a great deal during argumentation and I have told numerous times that I find it disrespectful, and then he seems that he regrets it afterwards. He also says very hurtful things which are not necessary. He prays five times a day but has no desire to go to the masjid and I have spoken to him in regards to the importance of it. The last argument we have had was about moving to an area which has no masjid. He had given me the impression that the next time we moved it will be near a masjid and I have anticipated this because I want not only him to go to the masjid but I also want my child to be raised in an Islamic environment. I have been patient and try to overlook his faults, but he is not willing to improve himself, at least I can not see it. I want to learn how to help him and be patient myself in regards to his bad ways. I almost giving up. What do you suggest?

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[> Subject: Re: Problem Marriage

Author:
Laila Nasheeba
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Date Posted: 05:54:56 06/01/02 Sat
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As Salaamu Alaikoum,

Praise be to Allah.

I suggest you contact your local Imam and arrange to have a meeting with him to discuss your problems with your husband in hopes that he will be able to sit with him and advise him of his behavior.

All men are supposed to pray their fard salats at the Mosque. This Hadith is Sahih and from Bukhari.

Because of this, it is important especially for those of us who are living in the West, to be near a Mosque. Another reason why this is important is because it allows our children to be closer to other Muslim children.

Again, I encourage you to contact your local Imam. It may be that your husband does not understand the importance of his being near and going to a Masjid, and perhaps once it is explained to him by an Imam he will listen...

AND ALLAH KNOWS BEST

Laila Nasheeba