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Subject: Re: SO confussed............

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Lori

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Date Posted: 04/13/09 6:08pm
In reply to: Christina 's message, "SO confussed............" on 04/13/09 8:47am

Hi Christina,
Welcome to the board. I understand what your going through, I too experienced a unplanned pregnancy about ten years ago. I didn't have a understanding boyfriend at the time and my parents as well as friends were not that accepting but I chose to have my baby. He is now ten years old and every day I thank God for making the choice to give him life.
I know right now you may be thinking of all of circumstances that you find yourself in currently and you wonder how you'll ever be able to take care of your baby the way you want to. Let me give you this piece of advice, your circumstances will change inevitably you want be in the same circumstances five years from now so I wouldn't base your decision on whether or not to have your baby on your current circumstances. There is so much help out there for single mom's and there are resources that are available to you in your state to help you with prenatal care and baby needs.
It sounds like there is a part of you that is wanting to keep this baby because your feelings are conflicting. Let me say that this is the type of decision that you have to make based on your heart. You said that looking into the abortion procedure made you sob and there is a reason for that.
Remember, don't make a decision based on what someone else may want you to do. Make a decision based on your own instincts. Just remember to make an informed decision. Do some research on abortion, adoption, and keeping your child. When you make an informed decision your less likely to have regrets.
Please keep us updated no matter what you decide. We are here for you to support you.

God Bless,
Lori

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Pat
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Date Posted: 04/14/09 5:54pm

Christina,

It sounds very much to me like your heart has already decided. You don't want to hurt your baby. So don't hurt him or her!

Let's say you had a two year old, and someone told you that you should kill him because you don't have enough money or resources. What would you think? Why does the fact this baby is younger make any difference?

People don't make good decisions when they are scared. Don't let your fear push you into something you will regret the rest of your life. Believe me, I have talked to plenty of women who have told me, "Not a day goes by I don't think of my baby." Let this be your chance to protect your child.

Your boyfriend is also running scared, apparently. At least he said he'd be there for you if you decide against abortion. Abortion is a horrible thing. It's unlikely your relationship would survive it.

Like Lori said, there is a lot of help available. Find your local crisis pregnancy agency and see what they have to offer.

Please think also that your baby already has eyes and fingers, as well as a heartbeat and brain waves. He or she can swim around in the amniotic sac.

Abortion is forever. Five minutes after it's done, it's too late to change your mind.

We love you both. We will be here for you as well.

Please protect your baby!

Hugs,
Pat