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Subject: Re: Confused depressed and dont know what to do Author: Tracey (Welcome!!! :)) [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 11/ 5/08 4:25pm In reply to: Dawn 's message, "Confused depressed and dont know what to do" on 11/ 3/08 12:45pm Dawn~ Hello and welcome!!! Your anxiety and fears are very understandable. The fear of the unknown can be quite scary, but you are not alone in this! Your boyfriend sounds very supportive...the fact that he has proposed is showing that he is taking this reponsibility seriously. Don't let what happened to you in a previous relationship scare you away from the possibility of an amazing one! I doubt very much your parents will never talk to you again. Will they be disappointed? Possibly...but they will soon get over that, especially when they see that little one for the first time! ;) I think you are struggling with what to do because you are allowing this fear to take over. You yourself said you are pro-life, so I wouldn't even put abortion on the table! I know women that have experienced abortion and live with regrets and depression. Once that life is taken away, it can never be given back. I think if you really think this through, the answer is staring you right back in the face! Listen to your heart and you can't go wrong...what is it telling you?? Dawn, I am praying for you today...I am praying for peace and understanding in all of this. No child is a mistake! Please continue to keep us posted! My e-mail is always open as well! God bless, Tracey [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> Subject: Re: Confused depressed and dont know what to do Author: Dawn (Happy) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11/ 6/08 8:19am Well thanks to Pat, Tracy and mostly my boyfriend i have decided to keep my baby (my boyfriend and i refer to him or her as our blessing because we havent chosen a name yet). I havent told my parents yet and im not going to until it is too late for me to have an abortion just in case (my parents are also pro life but given the circumstances i want to wait to be safe). I knew in the back of my mind i could never bring myself to go through with an abortion. I couldnt even make the call to get any information from my local doctor, i just needed a little reassurance and a few words from the wise. Again i would like to that Pat and Tracy for your words of encouragement. You gave me the strangth i needed to decide. Hopefuly some day i will be able to meet you and you can see my big boy and if everything goes well with this pregnancy you'll be able to meet my little boy to. Thanks again you all are blessing from God. Oh and we have set our wedding date for September 4th 2009. The same day as my parents were married 26 years ago.

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Confused depressed and dont know what to do Author: Tracey (WOO-HOOOO!!!!) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11/ 6/08 5:22pm Dawn~ What a burden lifted for you, I'm sure!!! It's wonderful that your boyfriend is being so supportive! Congrats, mommy!! We're so happy for you! :) Now as far as telling your parents, if you need help breaking the news, just let us know. The ladies here can offer lots of great advice and suggestions! And PLEASE continue to keep us posted! We are here any time you need help, support, or advice. I am praying for you and this little one! God bless, Tracey

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Confused depressed and dont know what to do Author: Pat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11/ 6/08 8:32pm Hi, Dawn, Thank you for the wonderful thanks! It brings tears to my eyes! Congratulations, Mom! :) Don't feel you have to wait to tell your parents. If they bring up abortion, just tell them it is out of the question. If you are firm, they will probably leave you alone. Remind them that they are pro-life and this is their grandchild. You are going to protect your grandchild. Ask them to learn to love him or her. If you wait, they might get upset with you for waiting. And they COULD put pressure on you any time. Perhaps we can meet someday; who knows? I live in Arizona. But if you keep in touch here and with the ladies, it just might happen! Hugs, Pat