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Subject: Re: No good option

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Sharon

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Date Posted: 11/16/07 11:12am
In reply to: Tammy 's message, "Re: No good option" on 11/14/07 11:16am

Tammy,

I agree with Heather, your message reflects a great deal of wisdom and depth. You are clearly doing some intense soul-searching right now.

I don't know what the future holds for you and your husband. But, if you continue to walk in integrity (not trying to mold your actions to please others or worrying too much about what outsiders think), I believe you will be rewarded with peace and contentment in the long run.

And, lastly, don't be too hard on yourself for not feeling "joyful" at the news of this new little one's arrival in your life. It's COMPLETELY understandable, given the trying circumstances surrounding this pregnancy, that you would have mixed feelings about it at best. That does NOT mean you won't welcome this little one into your life when he or she is born. In fact, a number of us have met the initial news of some our pregnancies with heartsickness, to say the least. It's important to not fall victim to feeling unnecessary guilt for that. It's perfectly normal. When you feel overwhelming joy while holding him or her in your arms later on, and are tempted to feel "unworthy" because you were hoping for a miscarriage early on in the pregnancy (as I was with my first pregnancy), just remember to be gentle with yourself - you are human, as we all are. That sort of guilt benefits no one. Just give in to the joy when it comes - and it will ;-)

Sharon

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