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Re: New Here...Feeling Alone and Scared

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Melanie

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Date Posted: 06/21/07 3:27am
In reply to: Laurel 's message, "New Here...Feeling Alone and Scared" on 06/19/07 10:43pm

Hi Laurel. I think a lot of what Luka had to say makes perfect sense. The only things I might add are that you need to seek out and find other people who are happy for you and would support you and your baby. That might seem difficult now because you have been so busy caring for others. I would probably add to Pat's recommendation to contact a Crisis Pregnancy Center. They often have some practical help such as maternity/baby clothing, furniture, etc., as well as referrals to state and community services. Sometimes single moms can get help with child care if needed.

I think you'll find that even though everyone doesn't suddenly become overjoyed once the baby is born, most people really have a hard time feeling anything else. They may end up a bit more supportive than you expect in the long run, and I hope that is the case for you.

In the meantime, keep building a network of support for yourself. A Crisis Pregnancy center is one place to start. If you need help locating one, please feel free to e-mail me and I'll see what I can find out for you.

--Melanie

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Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 06/28/07 10:24pm

Hi Laurel,

I'm a little late in the discussion here, but I just read your post and wanted to warmly welcome you at all. I agree with Luka, too. Nothing you've expressed is at all out of the realm of perfectly normal. Pregnancy in and of itself can produce a floodgate of feelings and contemplations, some hormone related, others just because of the magnitude and wonder of it all. Adding to that the mixed instincts you're experiencing of protection for yourself and child from your ex and a desire to want to be a whole family - it's not surprising that you're at a real huge place emotionally.

Welcome, welcome welcome! That's what this place is here for. You're in excellent company of wonderful women who understand those feelings very well.

Regarding practical advice, the suggestion to look up your local Crisis Pregnancy Center, sometimes called Pregnancy Resource Center, is a must first step. They're a one stop shop for every resource known to pregnant women. All of their services are free, and they offer wonderful counseling, too. So many women just need to decompress from all the new things happening.

I hope you'll stay around and make yourself at home.

With Kindness,

Heather

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Author: Tracey [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 06/29/07 3:43pm Laurel~ Great to hear from you! Glad things are going well! Please feel free to stop by anytime! We'd be more than happy to help you in any way we can! Great to hear your step mom may throw you a baby shower...sounds like they're starting to come around! Please continue to come back and keep us posted! God bless, Tracey