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Subject: Re: how to tell my parents?

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Lori

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Date Posted: 06/30/07 3:16am
In reply to: Nicole 's message, "how to tell my parents?" on 06/29/07 3:52pm

Hi Nicole,

Welcome to the board. I'm so glad that you found us. I can definitely relate to your situation. I experienced a unplanned pregnancy at the age of twenty. It's very hard to tell people that you love because you don't want to disappoint them. I was terrified to tell my parents and I decided to call my mom on the phone and just tell her. We both cried but in the end she was going with me to the doctors appointment standing behind me. She was so excited to be having a grandchild. I think she started buying baby toys and clothes when I was only a few months along.

I know that not all grandparents act this way but many of them always end up loving their grandchildren no matter what the circumstances may be. Now for your boyfriend, his reaction was very typical, a lot of men kind of go into shock and don't have the maternal bond that women do. Obviously were pregnant so our bodies are changing rapidly especially with the sudden change in hormones and men don't experience this at all so it doesn't seem real to them.

Most men do eventually come around though and fall in love with their child. For some it may happen after the child is born maybe because its a big reality then. I know your thoughts and I understand your anxiety about all of this. You need to do what is right for Nicole and remember that no matter what anyone tells you it is you who will live with the decision that you have made whether you choose to abort or have your baby. People's emotions change all the time and more than likely the first reaction you will get from family, boyfriend etc will just be a reaction but eventually they will change their minds. Just don't base your decision on what other people think because if you do you will definitely regret it.

I'm so glad that you have to come here for advice and support were here for you. Please continue to come to the board for advice and update us. We love to hear from you. IF you need anyone to talk to please feel free to email me any time.

GOd Bless,
Lori

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