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Subject: Re: Help Author: Melanie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 11/10/06 12:56am In reply to: Susan 's message, "Help" on 11/ 9/06 2:28pm Hi Susan. It's pretty normal to feel scared - for both of you. Give him time to come to terms with the fact that you are expecting his child. Most likely he is just wondering how he is going to pay the child support. If you are against abortion, then it is probably going to weigh pretty heavy on you if you go that route. It's a shame that things are such that there is that sort of pressure to do something that you really don't want out of fear. Abortion is basically a permanent solution to a temporary problem and it is unfortunately quite irreversible. Many times the worst fears we have do not come to pass. There are resources out there, and you have time to plan. The best I can tell you is to just find as much support and help as you can. A Crisis Pregnancy Center might be a good place to contact. They can refer you to resources in your community and provide some basic necessities for your baby. If you want help locating one, e-mail me and I'll see what I can find for you. Hang in there. --Melanie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Help Author: luka [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11/10/06 2:19am Obviously your cirumstances are not ideal but if youre highly against abortion then the answer is don't have one! No matter how many children you have had the pleasure of knowing nothing can compare to the complete and utter love you will feel for you baby once you meet him or her (and often times before that while still pregnant). I am right now pregnant to a man who doesn't want our baby and certainly does not want or love me. While i am not ecstatic about that fact i have found myself in a place where i am for the most part happy. Even so i too have my ups and downs as all women do during pregnancy regardless of their circumstances. What i am trying to say is that once you get used to the idea and work out how you are going to do this you may find yourself feeling incredibly greatful for the gift of your child. The babys father may be the same. Do you love each other? Without knowing what your relationship with him is like it's difficult to be able to give advice. My instinct is to tell you to give this baby a chance let it all sink in and try not to think of the worst case senario as there are plenty of positives to keeping your baby also. All i needed to do with regard to deciding about my own unplanned pregnancy was to do what felt right to me. Every time i even considered abortion i just felt sick inside, it's a horrid feeling, that's because i know. I have had abortions in the past and i can tell you no matter what the clinic says to you or what you say to yourself or how far along you are after the operation this creeping black emptiness feels like it's knawing away at your insides. It's really hard because you just want your baby back and theres not a single thing you can do about it. It's excrutiating emotionally and not something to be taken lightly. A 10 minute operation can equall a lifetime of regret. Love your baby and yourself, you can't do one without the other :) This baby is a part of you.